Shall I go to Turkey?

[AndMatt]

A friend is there visiting the apartment he owns for the first time in 2 years.

I've just been signed off sick after bereavement . I could fly out to join him for a few days R&R. I'd have to isolate pending PCR result on my return, but that's OK.

• OK to go on holiday whilst off sick?
• worth the trip for a couple of days?. He's coming home on Tues
• Gossip. I'm a relatively new widow, he's longtime divorced/single. I'm certain he would just take it as friends and be happy to help me for a few days, but others will raise eyebrows.
• He hasn't actually asked, I'd have to invite myself!

Oh and I'd have to cancel some big plans with another friend this weekend. Actually, that's my main reason not to go

He hasn't actually asked, I'd have to invite myself!

For this reason alone, of course the answer is no.

@Aquamarine1029

He hasn't actually asked, I'd have to invite myself!

For this reason alone, of course the answer is no.

I think that part would be fine actually. There's pretty much an open invitation for all his friends to join him when he's there and he thought I'd be working.

Why don't you phone him and tell him you're off sick and see what he says. Let him make the decision for you - if he asks you, then go, if he doesn't then stay home.

Until you ask and get the confirmation the thread is moot.

I would, and I would invite myself too if you are happy to do that.

However, I would be a bit weary of rules changing quickly - do you have a PLAN B incase you have to isolate either there, or on your return?

So you would cancel big confirmed plans with one friend, to invite yourself to Turkey with another friend who hasn't actually invited you but has a vague standing invitation to people in general?

I don't think this is cool, I'd be really cross if I was the friend you already had big plans with.

I only thought of it because another friend (who has been to stay with friend in Turkey on the past) suggested it on hearing that I've been signed off. That part would honestly be Ok, but there's no point me calling him before I've decided if I want to/am able to go.

If you are having a tough time, which it sounds like you are, and you think this will help, then I would go. (if he doesn't mind you going) Your other friend will understand surely?