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Dispute with people has led to false accusations

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Oldsoulbirdy · 30/11/2021 09:48

I’ve recently had a dispute with a man and a woman and they have made false accusations that I have threatened to harm them and their kids. I am a very petite young 5ft 4 female who is completely harmless.

I want to know what I will be expecting if they decide to go to the police and lie on my name as I have my whole career ahead of me and so much to lose

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WayneKorr · 30/11/2021 09:58

The police may speak to you. They are trained to weed out the truth . Are you in a union ?
Your size is irrelevant though

SprayedWithDettol · 30/11/2021 09:59

Just because someone says something, doesn’t make it true. The police know this. If they have no evidence they can’t proceed with a conviction. Just forget it and don’t rise to any bait.

Oldsoulbirdy · 30/11/2021 10:00

@SprayedWithDettol no there is no evidence I said such things, I will try to forget it, thankyou

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BleuJay · 30/11/2021 10:05

Avoid them and if they do force their way to a confrontation be aware that people can secretly film you so do not rise to anything they say, keep your mouth shut and walk away, call them police if you feel threatened.

Block them on your phone and all social media.

Theunamedcat · 30/11/2021 10:10

Don't forget about it protect yourself

Get a ring doorbell make sure you have witnesses everytime you need to be near them document everything

I was accused of screaming abuse over the fence at my neighbour I was 45 miles away at the time so it was obviously not me the complainant then changed the date to another day when I was home fortunately I had a witnesses to say I wasn't shouting abuse I literally had the health visitor over the police got stroppy with her because she explained she had been there the entire time not only had I been sleeping when she arrived but she had spent extra time there as her next appointment cancelled so it obviously wasn't me

Oldsoulbirdy · 30/11/2021 10:13

@Theunamedcat yes I will definitely be investing in a ring cam, my only regret is I should have brought one sooner

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WeAreTheHeroes · 30/11/2021 10:17

The other thing you can do is tell them to leave you alone. If they don't and their behaviour persists, report them to the police for harassment.

Thelnebriati · 30/11/2021 10:24

If you are a HA tenant you can talk to your housing officer and ask for help dealing with nuisance neighbours. You can also go to the police and make a complaint that your neighbours are harassing you.
When you make your complaint, keep it simple, factual and to the point.

makelovenotpetrol · 30/11/2021 11:17

They're likely just trying to scare you, but you can go to the police because they're threatening / harassing you.

Your size is absolutely irrelevant though.

dontgobaconmyheart · 30/11/2021 13:21

Your height gender and stature really isn't anything to do with it OP. There is no need to play the feeble little female who couldn't possibly, when you have done nothing wrong in the first place, and I would avoid doing it and stick to facts.

They can accuse you if they so wish but ultimately will need proof/evidence of any crimes committed. You are not going to be convinced of a crime you've not demonstrably committed and the police I'm sure sadly are used to having their time wasted with malicious allegations and petty civil disputes. They will know what they are doing.

There is no reason why a police officer contacting you to discuss the matter (if they do) would affect your career anymore than it wouldn't affect your career if you were in a car crash that wasn't your fault and the police took your details and statement for that.

As others have said, to protect yourself I would get a ring doorbell, make sure you make absolutely no contact with these people in any circumstances, block them and log and keep any contact they make with you, every time. Make (non emergency) reports to the police on each occasion, call 999 if they come to your home and you feel unsafe.

It will blow over eventually Flowers. The other party will soon learn the police won't be interested in that which never happened and can't be proven.

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