So having a few problems with the in-laws and to top is all off we’ve been asked to a family birthday meal. Unfortunately we’re away so suggested alternative dates and agreement was reached so thought all was well. However just discovered from DH tonight we’re expected to contribute 50% of the meal in exchange for a present. (Meal will be 4 times what I spend on a present) To be fair our kids will probably be more expensive than their cousins so will get more value for money and feeling sorry for them, but still feel aggrieved that I’ve been invited to something and asked to pay for the privilege! In the past we’ve taken them for meals or hosted and not expected a single penny including my 40th birthday where we paid for their food and drinks! In contrast to my parents and sister who always insist on paying for everything I find this quite strange. This was also the case with my in-laws when we first married and normally they’re quite generous. Is this now the norm where you invite someone and ask them to pay?