Upsetting to hear neighbour screaming at his child

[A580Hojas]

He is about 5 or 6 years old and I understand he has additional needs, but it's just so awful to hear the tantrumming, the parent getting gradually crosser and crosser - followed by the out and out yelling! He was saying "calm down, calm down, CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN" at increasing volume which wasn't diffusing anything at all. It descended into "DO YOU WANT A SMACK? DO YOU?"

I feel sympathy all round but it's horrible. Poor family . Don't know why I'm posting really, just feel a bit shaken.

I've shouted at my kids briefly but never like this. But then I haven't had to deal with non NT behaviour and I do honestly know it can test the patience of a saint.

Feel sad for everyone.

Well you could report. You don’t have to just listen and feel sad about it.

I have two children with autism and I have never threatened them with a snack or shouted at them when they're having a meltdown.

That isn't normal, for a parent of a child with or without additional needs. That's threatening violence. Report it if you're genuinely concerned.

I would report that.

I would report that. After reading some of the abuse cases in the news this week that were missed time and time again. If it was distressing to hear, imagine how distressing it is for the child.

I'd report without hesitation. The recent stories of children killed by their abusive parents is haunting. I would not take the chance.

Why don’t you be a kind neighbour and knock on the door and ask the parent if they need some breathing space and you’ll watch the kid for half hour?
It sounds like a horrible situation where both parent and child need a break from one another and rather then rushing to social services, actually offer to help

Shouting is one thing but threatening to hit a child is another. I would consider reporting.

Maybe they are pushed to their limits? Having a SEN child is NOT easy.
Maybe go round and offer your support instead of judging them?

I would report this. I have a child with Sen.

Report it. Nothing will happen off the back of one report but if other people also have concerns then this will help social workers to piece together what is going on.

Who do I report it to? I've lived next door to them for 8 or 9 years, not really had cause for concern before although I can hear that it's difficult for them and there's a lot of noise and meltdowns. I don't really know the neighbours well, not well enough to knock on the door and offer assistance.

Report to ss,it sounds like they need help as a family.
Unfortunately it seems shouting was ignored as normal family stuff recently when a little boy ended up dead. He had been screamed at as well

Ring 999 if they are threatening to smack their child like that. If you can hear it others can too, they won’t know it’s you that’s rung.

Contact the nspcc.

Contact social services at your local council.

Report report report!!!! It’s so important people report this stuff. You could literally save that childs life.

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Maybe they are pushed to their limits? Having a SEN child is NOT easy. Maybe go round and offer your support instead of judging them?

I have a son with severe autism. It is not easy but I never threaten him like that. Ever.

www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/reporting-abuse/report/

@A580Hojas

Who do I report it to? I've lived next door to them for 8 or 9 years, not really had cause for concern before although I can hear that it's difficult for them and there's a lot of noise and meltdowns. I don't really know the neighbours well, not well enough to knock on the door and offer assistance.

Report to the police. If they're concerned then they'll notify SS.

You should report ASAP

Just wanted to add I’ve rung 999 in a very similar situation- neighbour shouting at their child. Police took it very seriously and sent a car round with two officers within about 5 mins. Super fast and went inside the house etc.

I agree, you should report it. Even if nothing comes of it, at least the parents might be made aware that there are better ways of dealing with a child.
There are far too many children who have been let down by society and had tragic endings.

Report it.