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Would you buy a house that once belonged to an ex?

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OurHouseZ · 28/11/2021 15:43

OH and I been looking for a bigger property for a while now but haven't found anything we like. I was looking on zoopla in our preferred location last night when I came across a lovely house I liked, it then recommended other houses selling nearby. One particular house stood out due to the selling price being very low. I clicked and looked into it only to realise that it was my exs house that he rented with a mate years ago.

I have incredibly fond memories of being in the house and spending time with my ex and his friends, It really was an amazing time of my life and at the time I felt so happy being there, I remember never wanting that moment of my life to end. I can recall one occasion ex and I were lying on the sofa talking about the house and I told him I want to buy this house one day, he said your not the only one, I want to and so does my mate. Anyway something happened that tipped me over the edge and the relationship ended, It didn't really end on good terms.

So fast forward a few years later, the house is on the market, its well below our budget, it needs gutting and renovating, however it really would make a lovely family home.

I've not mentioned the full history behind the house to OH, just said it belonged to a friend of a friend once upon a time. I don't think OH would want to look into it if he knew. The house really would suit our family and all the local amenities it has to offer. I've become attached to the house, and I'm due to view next weekand. I know when I step inside all the memories will come back.

Should I go ahead and look into it or just keep my happy memories and leave the past where it is and look elsewhere?

Would like to hear your thoughts

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BleuJay · 28/11/2021 16:22

Given that you are going to renovate it and style it completely different then I can’t see a problem.

I would however let your husband know that an old boyfriend used to live there as these things have a way of being discovered and you would look foolish for not telling him.

You can of course play the relationship down.

Bluntness100 · 28/11/2021 16:24

I think I’d be honest with your husband, but try not to use such romantic language as it sounds like you’ve still got a massive thing for your ex.

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