I had a friend a few years ago who got divorced (no kids involved) and it turned her into one of the most self-obsessed people I'd ever met.
I completely understood she was going through a hard time and I tried to be supportive but it got to the point where when we'd meet up she'd talk about herself for 2 hours straight without even asking me "how are you?" - even as a greeting.
I ended up taking a step back from the friendship and we rarely see each other now.
Now another friend of mine is getting divorced and the same thing is happening to her. But this second friend is much closer and I really don't want to lose the friendship.
Again I completely get that it's a really difficult time for her and I have been as supportive as I can throughout. But the last time we met for coffee she talked about herself from the minute we sat down to the minute we hugged goodbye without asking me a single question. Not one.
If the conversation tapered off at any point she'd just lapse into silence until I felt obligated to ask her another question.
And for context my life is no peach - I have a lot of stuff going on too and tbh right now it feels like I'm an unpaid therapist.
Has anyone else experienced this with divorced friends? I really don't want to bring it up with her because I don't want to lose her and I'm hoping she'll snap out of it but it doesn't show any signs of abating.
If it matters - both friends instigated these divorces and no cheating or abuse was involved.