What time do you expect your 17 year old to be back home

[amiafreakofnature]

At a weekend?

Entirely depends on what they're doing. I mean honestly, I don't expect them back home...they always come home at a reasonable time though.

They might somewhere with friends and they always catch the last train home which is at 10.30pm but if they were at a party, I'd expect them to get an Uber so they could come home later.

Usually though, they will arrange a sleepover at a friend's who lives closer to where they're going.

What I am trying to say is that at 17 it's largely up to them as long as they let me know their plans and where they're going so I don't worry.

Mine always texts "On train now" or whatever. Or "Arrived at Bob's house, we're all going to stay here"

And that's that...they're nearly 18 after all.

For a 17 year old I’d expect them to be home when they said they’d be home. So I wouldn’t expect them to follow a curfew or similar - I mean a lot of 17 year olds are about to go to uni where they come and go as they please. However, I would expect the courtesy of knowing if they’d be staying over with friends/coming in very late and would expect them to come in quietly in respect to people who are sleeping.

Same as above. As long as they keep me notified of their plans and don’t disturb everyone when they get in then all is good. It’s working so far.

Same as above. Mine went to her best friends birthday party on Friday after college and she kept In touch and the party was at home and came back around 02:30am by Uber rather than that she is normally home by 11:30pm

At 17 I started university and therefore lived my own life away from home. Just a thought.

Whatever time they said they’d be home and a text if they were stopping out.

I expect ds to keep me updated by text and to let me know roughly what time he'll be home before I go to bed.

I’d expect them to give me a broad idea and text if it changes. If they had exams coming up then I’d expect them not be out every night (as I am paying for them to study). But no weekend curfew - they are neatly adult.

DS keeps in touch, text to say on way home, sometimes he will stay at friends. I’d rather not give a curfew and know he was home at whatever time. At his age I used to tell my parents I was staying at a friends and she mine and we had absolutely idea where we would stay!

^^no idea where we would stay! This is because my parents were very strict and wouldn’t let me stay out late, so they never actually knew where I was.

When I was 17 it was very much on a basis of 'just let me know'. I didn't have a curfew or anything, just had to keep my mum updated if I wasn't going to be coming home that night. I'd usually give her a general gist of what time I thought I'd be home, but she didn't require it.

No curfew. Just let me know if not coming home.

I think 16-17 is a difficult age. If at someone's house for the evening I pick up anywhere between 8 pm and 9.30 pm depending on what the parents want. Pick up from a house party usually between 10pm and 11pm. Sleepovers take care of themselves though tell her try to and get as much sleep as possible if has busy week ahead/exams. If it's hanging out in the park making tik-toks, then around 8pm in winter and up to 10pm in school summer hols.

Thanks for the ideas. I don't generally say a time - it was half twelve she got back last night and apparently her friends mum went screwy and said they can't hang about together but when I look back to me at 17 I was out until all hours

No curfew as such but I expect to know where and with whom she is with.

Mostly she’s in by about 11:30. If she’s at a party 2:30 seems more usual.

As long as she lets me know the time she's due so I'm not worrying, any time really.
(Taxi back if it's late though, I wouldn't want her walking back alone if it was too late 😬).

I think I’d want want to know broadly when to expect back and a text if there was a change of plan