This can't work can it?

[Masugamanuts]

I already know the answer, just need some strangers on the internet to confirm what I already know.

I'm a mum to 2 kids age 3&6. Separated from DH amicably. Coparent well, he's a great dad.

I've met a women, mother of 2 kids (6&10) single. We've known each other a few years - we met in the UK and remained friends, penpals, zoom calls etc after she went home. She's American (well dual American/ Canadian). Her children's father is American and they share custody.

She's been over in the UK for a few weeks since travel reopened and we've met up a few (read many) times. She's amazing. I'm crazy about her and it appears that the feeling is mutual. But the question of the future is like the elephant in the room. She's due to go home in 2 weeks but is probably going to move this forward due to the new variant, she can't risk being stranded here, her kids are still in the US.

I just cannot see how this can work long term. It just can't can it? Argh. This is frustrating. I'm thinking just enjoy the time we've got together, treat it like a holiday romance?

I think long distance will be very hard in the circumstances.

I suppose it depends how invested in it you both are? It works sometimes, for some people.

I think it would be very difficult long term, I think your right to treat it like a holiday romance and enjoy every moment of it 💐

Why are you fretting about whether it will work instead of just enjoying it right now? Carry on speaking with her when she returns to the US- If it works it works, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t and you’ll find out.

@Ilikewinter

I think it would be very difficult long term, I think your right to treat it like a holiday romance and enjoy every moment of it 💐

Yes, sorry OP - don’t get in too deep.

Have fun with this one and focus on getting out and meeting someone in the UK.

@MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry

Why are you fretting about whether it will work instead of just enjoying it right now? Carry on speaking with her when she returns to the US- If it works it works, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t and you’ll find out.

I was going to say exactly the same thing! Stop fretting, enjoy it as it is and see what happens.

Good luck. :)

Thanks yeah, I just need to enjoy the time we have together and stop worrying!

So last night she mentioned "the future" and her going home, we'd both been avoiding it. I did as suggested on here and said we should just enjoy the moment and not worry. I think we both know it's not feasible to be a long term thing but we can enjoy it for what it is.