Present for a tricky situation

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My best friend lives in France. She's in the third of a medically managed miscarriage (sorry, I'm not up on the right terminology) having just discovered her much wanted pregnancy isn't viable. She also knows she won't have another chance at a second child for reasons I'm not going in to.

What can I send her? I wish I could go round to support her but that's not an option.

Maybe flowers or a good (but lighthearted) novel. Keep in touch by phone.

Everyone is different but flowers would upset me more as a reminder of what I am mourning.

A handwritten card with sympathy and support would be kindly received and I could read when I wanted to and not have to display it if I didn’t want to.

I don’t think gifts are always necessary.

What about something which can be planted? I got a friend going through something similar a lovely rose in a pot. I think though that a lovely card or text and then staying in touch is most important of all

Having lost a child I second flowers and gifts just making things worse. There's nothing that can replace a child that you cannot keep and flowers and gifts just always made me sadder. I wanted for nothing other than my child and most gifts honestly I never even opened.

Maybe just a card to let her know that you are thinking of her. If I was her I would appreciate flowers but it seems not everyone would.

Thank you. It is such a sensitive situation and the last thing I want to do is cause any more hurt. I've sent a book I think will appeal to her and will write and post a card. It is SUCH a personal situation that it is so easy to put one's foot in it!