Am I being unfair

[Robjay8]

Hi everyone I would like everyone’s thoughts on my views and if I’m being unreasonable.
Tonight me and my partner had a massive argument because I took my son to football which is about an hour away from where we live.
After the game I tried to phone a taxi to take us from the train station to our home address which is about 40 minutes to walk or about a ten minute drive.
After phoning numerous taxi companies and not being able to book one I ask my partner if she could pick me and my 14 year old son up from the train station as it’s late and it would take 40 minutes to walk and 10 minutes in the car.
My partner refused and called me selfish for asking if she could pick us up and we had a massive argument over it.
I’m getting people’s view as I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask my partner to help as I had exhausted all other options to get home and if it had been the other way around I wouldn’t dream of her walking home if I could if help

Nice!

It's more selfish to leave you in that situation

Depends. If your partner was sitting about doing nothing having had a day off, not selfish to ask.

If she was actually at work it’s selfish to ask.

If you and your teen waltzed off to football, leaving your partner to do dinner, clean up, bath and bedtime for several small children or children with additional needs, it’d be selfish to ask her to then bundle everyone else into the car to collect you.

We’d need the whole story.

So you went out and had your enjoyment and presumably age had the evening to do as she wishes which may have involved having a drink of alcohol or perhaps just time for herself and you phone her at the end of the match expecting g her to come and get you?

Why on earth did you not prebook a cab? After a football match, cabs are going to be hugely busy so it was foolishness on your past not to make proper arrangements.

Do you usually take your Son to the football? Was it to watch him play? Or did you go to watch an actual match?
Had you discussed plans for getting home with your partner beforehand?

Based on what you've written it sounds pretty selfish, but if you could elaborate a bit people could advise you better I think.

I am not sure anyone can answer this. It really depends. As with most things posted hear, it really depends on the details.

On the face of it, it seems shitty for them to
not come for you or mind giving you a lift. But there could be detail like, they were already in bed and getting up early today. Or that you have form for going out and nor being able get home meaning they have to do running about all the time.

What are they like usually and what was their actual objection?

If it’s as simple as this with no backstory then you are not being unreasonable.

Than again, I would collect my partner without question in this situation but I would be nervy about asking him because he wouldn’t do it so happily. This is the sort of shit partners should do in my opinion

all this partner bs. he/she/it should have offered to meet you at the train station period end off. no begging no catching a cab stupidity.
the whole concept of being partners is being efficient and helping one another. he/she/it should be driving you to the station as well prior to the match/practice/game.

I agree that it depends on the background but on the face of it I don't think it's unreasonable to ask your partner to come and pick you up - it's only 20 minutes of driving. It'd be different if there were other factors eg young children.

Is this not something you do regularly? Maybe work out a plan in advance next time. I wouldn't mind picking DH up 10 minutes away but I'd be a little annoyed if it was without any warning.

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all this partner bs. he/she/it should have offered to meet you at the train station period end off. no begging no catching a cab stupidity. the whole concept of being partners is being efficient and helping one another. he/she/it should be driving you to the station as well prior to the match/practice/game.

If there sufficient enough to get there I'm sure they can get back

Morning thanks for your replies and i thought there would be a 50/50 split.
The story was its my son fave thing to do is to go and watch his team play so after arriving at the ground at 6 i rang to pre book a taxi for later that evening from the train station only to be told that they only had 2 cars on and we would have to wait at the train station for an hour before they could get one to us.
We live in a small town so it can be a nightmare!!!!
So as i said rang partner as i didnt want my son waiting a hour in the cold as its only 10 minutes down the road.
I know my gf had been working in the day but isn't being in a relationship part of helping each other out?