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Have just been asked to pay £45 for Xmas do

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youllneedthisfish · 23/11/2021 19:21

Aibu to think that you shouldn’t have to pay for your own Christmas party/meal? Have just been asked for £45 for the Christmas do at the job I’ve just started (in an office) - it’s this usual? Can’t afford and embarrassed to say no Confused

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Rachellow · 23/11/2021 20:40

I’m a teacher. We do get a free Xmas dinner with the kids. It’s not great tbh. Our work do this year is £65 but should be fun!

ZACHSHAT · 23/11/2021 20:40

I've always had to pay. Public sector. I also don't think £45 is too bad. I'm presuming this is for three courses and a glass of wine?

XingMing · 23/11/2021 20:43

I don't go to the parties, because I'm not an everyday team member, but the cost of entertaining comes off the earnings I'm left with.

Redcart21 · 23/11/2021 20:44

Those of you shocked that people have to pay for their own Xmas party- would you mind it coming out of your taxes then??

RisingSunn · 23/11/2021 20:45

I’m so surprised by these responses! I’ve never had to pay for Christmas party.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2021 20:46

@Redcart21

Those of you shocked that people have to pay for their own Xmas party- would you mind it coming out of your taxes then??
I actually really wouldn’t, I think the majority of our public sector workers do a great job and are largely underpaid. To get good employees, you also have to give fair wages and benefits so if a £50 lunch once a year would improve the employee experience and make them a bit happier I’d be fine to pay that
bakingdemon · 23/11/2021 20:46

Usually my work has subsidised it but we then have to top up to get something nice

Silversun83 · 23/11/2021 20:47

@Gwenhwyfar

"Would you really expect and be happy for taxpayers' money to pay for thousands of meals out?! grin"

Personally, yes, just as I'm happy for taxpayers' money to go on wages. However, I can understand why it's not done.

However, OP didn't specify that she works in the public sector.

I realise that the OP might not work in the public sector.

I wasn't talking about the OP, I was talking about the many people who couldn't understand why a person might have to pay for themselves...

Redcart21 · 23/11/2021 20:49

@ShirleyPhallus I fully agree with you. But can you imagine the Daily Mail headlines Hmm

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2021 20:51

[quote Redcart21]@ShirleyPhallus I fully agree with you. But can you imagine the Daily Mail headlines Hmm[/quote]
I generally think that if something causes a daily Mail outraged headline then it’s probably a good thing Wink

But yes, can just imagine SHAMEFUL NHS BOOZE CARNAGE - TRAINEE DOCS GET SMASHED AND YOURE PAYING FOR IT headlines

WaltzingTilda · 23/11/2021 20:51

Depends on your workplace I guess. When I've worked in a small team the manager paid (but its not a given) , but when it's a big team then I've paid. Usually about £20 to £25. I wouldn't pay £45 to have a meal with work colleagues tbh. I don't think I'll enjoy a £45 meal with my colleagues, I'd rather go out with my family instead. Just say you don't want to go, what with the pandemic and all.

Newbabynewhouse · 23/11/2021 20:51

I have worked in one job that the company paid for the do and all the drinks but this was the "BIG" company do for everybody in the company to join organised by the directors... if you do a meal and drinks by department organised by manager, you usually pay for your own yes...but you dont have to go...

WombatChocolate · 23/11/2021 20:52

When work don’t pay, I think the organiser of any party should keep an eye on cost and limit the price. Christmas is an expensive time of year and £45 for a meal, can easily turn into £60 once a couple of drinks and a tip are added on.

Extras can escalate the bill, with some people drinking lots and bills being split. It can all cause a lot of resentment and often the unpredictable nature of the cost is a reason people don’t go.

The fact some are willing to spend a vast sum, isn’t a reason to choose an expensive venue or menu in my view. Better to go simple, with something like a buffet and a cash bar if work aren’t paying. And I know there are loads of places, particularly public sector where you’d be lucky to get a sandwich provided.

Lots of people have multiple things going on at Christmas - meals with groups of friends, new year events, family hosting or meals out….it can all add up to hundreds and hundreds, especially if there are 2 of you getting invited to all these things. Therefore, keeping a lid on the price of inficivduak events is good.

I remember going as the +1 to a couple of corporate paid for Christmas do’s in the early 90s. Fantastic venues, 5 course meals, free bar, fantastic bands and discos and other entertainment and then a night in the hotel and breakfast all provided. Was a lavish splurge…and so much enjoyed because it was small laid on. But none of us would have chosen to spend the several hundred pounds that event would have cost over head, if we’d had to pay ourselves.

Personally I really do t want to spend in excess of £35 all-in for a works do and I understand lots of people might prefer under £20. You either go for an expensive event which effectively excludes lots of people or keep it cheaper and accessible.

mswales · 23/11/2021 20:53

I've never had to pay to attend a work christmas party and this includes at small non-profit orgs

hamsterchump · 23/11/2021 20:54

Why would anyone go if you have to pay? Who willingly pays to spend time with colleagues, (shudder). Madness, we're not going to OH's cos you have to pay for partners, and would only be going for a freebie in any case, I thought that was bad enough.

MrsAmaretto · 23/11/2021 20:55

When I worked in Insurance the company paid,

When I’ve worked in the public sector I’ve paid.

Can you imagine the uproar if Local authorities or the NHS put any money towards a staff Christmas do??

honestlywhy · 23/11/2021 20:57

I've never paid for a works Christmas do or meal.

Babyroobs · 23/11/2021 20:57

Normal for some. I have worked in the NHS most of my life and yes completely normal to fund it yourself as public funds aren't going to pay ! Currently my workplace gives us £15 each towards an Xmas meal but I don't think we are using it. My 2 adult sons were talking about their Xmas meals this evening and both are having everything paid for / open bar all paid for. So I think private companies more likely to pay.

wellbehavedwomen · 23/11/2021 20:58

@Redcart21

Those of you shocked that people have to pay for their own Xmas party- would you mind it coming out of your taxes then??
£50 a year to build morale, team spirit and show appreciation is a total bargain. It's also peanuts, in most pay runs.
Babyroobs · 23/11/2021 20:59

@hamsterchump

Why would anyone go if you have to pay? Who willingly pays to spend time with colleagues, (shudder). Madness, we're not going to OH's cos you have to pay for partners, and would only be going for a freebie in any case, I thought that was bad enough.
Exactly why I'm not going. very small team of four others and two I can't stand ! One of my colleagues has done nothing all year whilst I have done the lot. I dread to think what I might do or say if I have a few drinks in his company. Fortunately haven't had to see him all year with wfh.
QueenofLouisiana · 23/11/2021 20:59

I'll get a free Christmas Dinner, as long as I agree to eat with the children in my classroom 2 weeks before Christmas. Traditionally I feel sick after watching that performance, so probably I won't want to eat at all.

All those expressing horror at the idea of paying for your own party have clearly never worked in the public sector. If you'd all like to drop off £30 at your local hospital/ hospice/ social care hub/ school, that would help us to enjoy a freebie piss up too. Thanks.

Fimofriend · 23/11/2021 21:00

I have never paid for the Christmas party arranged by the company.

Jeez. British workers have so few benefits. If they can't even pay for one measly dinner why even work for the damn cheapskates?

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 23/11/2021 21:00

Never ever had to pay and I've worked in a wide range of industries

SilkLabrador · 23/11/2021 21:01

I've never been to a Christmas do that you pay for, usually wine on the table, meal and a few grand behind the bar, you only fork out if you go on elsewhere afterwards.

Crossfitwidow · 23/11/2021 21:02

Public sector here…Not a chance in hell of having a paid meal. Boss might stick his hand in his pocket and buy a round if we’re lucky.