Have your DPs baby proofed their house?

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My youngest is nearly a teen and we used to visit my DPs every weekend. They did no baby proofing other than perhaps removing a few select precious ornaments. The stairs were a bit of a pain as the dc always made a beeline for them, but me and DH just ran after them.

Dsis has a ds who is 2.5 years. She doesn't live close by, so only visits every month. She has been making passive aggressive comments about DPs not baby proofing their house, and how it feels they aren't making enough effort. She says as a minimum dps should have a gate across the kitchen and top and bottom of the stairs. If my dgc visited every month for a few hours I don't think it would occur to me to do this...or is this a thing?

My question is really, how much effort have your DPs gone to to baby proof their house, and how often do you see them in their house?

None that I can think of. DD is always supervised anyway as my mum wants to spend every single moment with her, so she's never alone for long enough to get into any trouble anyway. Would never expect stairgates or anything like that in their home!

Oh and we see them every 3 weeks or so.

Yes starcaller that's what I think, but wasn't sure if I'm out of touch because mine are older.

Used to visit every week.
I don’t recall any changes made, and didn’t expect them. I kept an eye on DC and we played with them, there wasn’t a time they wandered into the kitchen or near the stairs as we were always with them.
She did have a high chair there because her friend used to look after her grandchildren and passed it onto DM when they were bigger.

Is your DSis planning on paying for the 3 gates she feels your DP’s should have?

None, and they shouldn't have to and I would never expect it either.
If I have no young babies I sure as hell don't want permanent ugly safety fixtures in my house. I'd say if it was a concern buy your own travel safety gate you can pop up (or your dsis in this case)

No meet I don't think it has occurred to her!

My DPs put their fragile ornaments up out of reach while we were there, and that was about it. Seemed fine to me

Mine did get stair gates - both my parents and PiL. My parents did look after mine for 2 days a week though.
Can’t remember them doing anything else.
Why don’t you suggest you sister gets one of those adjustable gates to put up when she visits.
I always found though that when visiting in this scenario there was so many adults around the small ones never got far.

I didn’t put stairgates on my own stairs; I definitely didn’t expect my parents to do so!

No my mum didn’t and I would expect it

No, but I did the bare minimum of baby proofing in my own house, so wouldn't expect it elsewhere. She does have a fire gard which I bought and gave her (open gas fire), but has decided not to fix it to the wall, so it's as much use as a chocolate teapot. We just closely supervise and avoid that room if the fires on.

My dc have never visited my dp’s house. Dm died a long time ago and df is on his own. He’s antisocial and doesn’t like anyone to visit - I’ve only been allowed through the door myself about twice in the last five years (I do see him regularly; he visits us or we meet elsewhere for lunch or something).

PIL live abroad so we only go there once or twice a year. They have had stair gates up for a decade though, as they have other dgc nearby. No other concessions to children though - they are just supervised closely and taught not to play with ornaments.

Why would someone babyproof their house when there are no kids living there. Ridiculous to think they should be having stair gates etc up for visits every so often.

No, never, and for context my parents have 8 children, all but one of us has had children and it's been rare for there not to be children in their house for the past 2 decades.

I have my own DGC and have done no baby proofing, he spends 2 days a week here. Didn't even consider it, wondering now if I should have.

OK so it seems dsis is being unreasonable then. Space that is dm's thoughts, she doesn't want a fixture that might damage her wallpaper/bannister for the sake of a few hours per month.
I must send dsis a link to a removable one and suggests she buys it.

I look after my DGC weekly but didn’t child proof my house. If DIL & SIL wanted me to, I would expect them to speak to me outright and tell me and provide the stuff.

They didn’t light the log burner when there are young DCs around and kept breakable nick nacks out of reach but I wouldn’t have expected them to do much more than that

But then I don’t have stairgates all over my own house so wouldn’t expect anyone else to

Not really altho my DF does have a gate at top of stairs for when grandkids sleep the night his stairs have a tight bend and are steep so one sleepy dosey wandering kid in the night could be a disaster.
But that's it.
Ils have a gate on kitchen though but it's for the dog too

Ds is 25 and dd 21. Other cousins also, youngest now 8.
Dh’s parents were hugely vigilant when any of their grandchildren visited. They would never have forgiven themselves if a treasured grandchild got hurt in their house

We didn't baby proof our own house other than moving breakable things out of reach and closing doors to stop stair escapes. Wouldn't expect anyone else to for the odd visit!

We didn't baby proof our house so I certainly wouldn't be expecting anyone else to for my children. The only thing we did was attach book cases to the wall so they couldn't be pulled over. But we had no stairgates or cupboard locks or bumpers on sharp cornered tables or attached to the wall fireguards or anything else I can think of.

If they are visiting DP will they not be watching the child the whole time? Or will child be roaming free in rooms away from the adults? The latter would seem a bit odd to me if I was visiting someone.

I didn't do any baby proofing in my own home so wouldn't expect anyone else to do any if I was visiting with DD.

No, my parents already had a stair gate on the kitchen but that was because of the dogs. Other than that they just move anything hazardous out of the way when we’re there. The only change is a toybox in the living room.

I asked MIL to put a safety catch on the under-sink cupboard where bleach and other cleaning products were stored. If we stayed overnight I took a portable stairgate for the top landing. The biggest worry was actually medication/tablets left lying around on bedside tables/coffee tables and knives and pan-handles left in reach during cooking. Could never relax during a visit!

Just a fire guard at my mums and we were there every 1-2 weeks. She was always closely supervised anyway