I went through a horrible time last year. A friend I considered a very good friend was quite disloyal to me and stayed on the fence on an issue, allowing someone to spout unfounded gossip about me unchallenged. Basically she sat on the fence. Fair enough, she was entitled to however i wouldn't have allowed it if the the roles were reversed, I would have been 100% loyal to her. There was a lot of hurt caused to me. After that I distanced myself and so did she. Absolutely fine, sad but I felt we both knew the story.
I received a text recently, asking me why I had distanced myself, had she done something wrong, she valued our friendship. I found it to be disingenuous as she had also distanced herself and unless she has amnesia, I can't see why she wouldn't know the reasons.
I don't really want to get into it with her however I was ghosted by someone in the past and it was very painful and I don't want to do this to another person. I would rather leave it go as things stand and it's probably the right thing to do for me but I do know the pain of ghosting.
Any advice on how to respond? I don't want to get into anything, the drama of last year is very raw but I would like to end it like a grown up.