Hug your mum

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Just that. My wonderful mum should be celebrating a milestone birthday. Instead, I've spent the day trying to explain to my children that their grandmother would have loved them dearly and spoiled them rotten. This is all guess work because she died when dd1 was a tiny baby and the other children hadn't been born yet.
I miss her every day. I grieve not just for her but for the relationship my kids have missed out on, for my siblings who became adults without a mum, for all the fun and mischief she should have still been making.
If you have a lovely mum like me, please tell her she is wonderful, hug her if you can, don't take tomorrow for granted.

Yes, absolutely. Like you, op, I wish I could.

Wish I could. She's been gone for many years now, but it still seems recent.

So very sorry

Wish I could, along with my dd 😪
Hopefully, they are hugging each other.

I wish I could. Mine died last year suddenly and I still keep thinking I'll phone her up and tell her something. I've been dreaming about her lately as well.

I know what you are saying. I was my mum's carer for 17 years. After she nearly died in 2019 I put her needs before anyone else's. For 2 years I was unable to leave the house unless someone else could sit with her. Then she was taken into hospital in June with a query stroke.

Without me on hand to keep her on track/constantly reassure her it was obvious to everyone that she had dementia and her needs were more than I could manage at home. Last month a place was found for her in a residential care home. Now she doesn't remember the names of anyone in the family. She doesn't remember if I am her daughter or her sister and after every visit to her I come home and cry because I am losing her bit by bit.

yep mine was gone before her first grandchild. She would have adored them and they her. She was a remarkable character, flawed but brilliant. Nearly 20 years ago and still shite.

So sorry you lost yours too OP