Excited and nervous to go away without my family

[thecatmother]

Just that really. Prior to pandemic my job included a lot of overseas trips and I could be gone for days. I had a robust and flexible support system and my children and DP were very independent as well. Fast forward to now , i do absolutely everything at home as well as work full time. I know it is my own fault for getting here.
Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I had a small argument with my DP and was venting to my friend, who lives in a busy city, and she invited me over for a weekend. I said yes, what a great idea.
I'm on the train now, and I am nervous, excited and scared (!) I keep thinking worrying thoughts about the house, the children, the DP, the dogs.
It is not normal for me, I'm only away for a couple of days, and a couple of hours away from home, but it feels so daunting.
This reminds me of how I felt going away to the uni , when I was young.
I think I have lost my confidence and I need to learn to become more independent again.

The family will survive and you will have a fabulous rejuvinating weekend! Enjoy OP! Don't get carried away on the vino and waste the next day though (speaking from experience and regret!)

Have a great time op and then when you get home, tell DH he needs to stay stepped up and go back to doing his fair share.

Have a magnificent time!

They will all be fine. As you said yourself, they were independent and managed before when you were away loads, and they're older now. Also, it's good to give the kids chances to manage without you as they grow up. Have a wonderful time with your friend and relax.

@wtfisthatspiderdoing

The family will survive and you will have a fabulous rejuvinating weekend! Enjoy OP! Don't get carried away on the vino and waste the next day though (speaking from experience and regret!)

Thank you 😊 🥂we are planning a bit of sightseeing and then a few cocktails 🍸

@SleepingStandingUp

Have a great time op and then when you get home, tell DH he needs to stay stepped up and go back to doing his fair share.

Thank you, we actually argued about that exact issue. I get home from work, do dinner, sort out the clothes and lunches for the next day, do a bit of cleaning, a bit of reading and homework with DD and before you know it it's bedtime. He does do things around the house, but it's not consistent and he has fallen into the pattern of just waiting for me to get to it. Before the pandemic we were sharing all the housework, as when I was at work it often was long hours or away!

Thank you for lovely supportive responses. I have just had my first glass of wine 🍷. Feeling much better 😌