Anyone else just feeling utterly crap about themselves?

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I'm just here to have a moan because I'm trying to keep it together in front of everyone else but I just feel so rubbish.

I feel fat and unattractive since having my baby 10 months ago, tired, no motivation, recently had my hair done to try and cheer myself up at the hairdressers the other week and absolutely hate it, my stomach is still just a wobbly stretch marked mess.

I was quite confident in myself and my body before having DS but now I just feel disgusting next to anyone and everyone.

It sounds so vain and pathetic written down but I've been crying to myself about this most days recently.

Ugh.

Yes, frequently. Sleep deprivation makes it far worse. At my worst I see myself as a hideous talentless failure. Objectively though I'm not. And you aren't either. The baby stage can be so tough, but it doesn't last for long. You have plenty of time to work on how you look and get your confidence back. For now, no one else is going to judge you as harshly as you judge yourself. Your body made a whole person, it's OK to cut it some slack.

10 months is nothing .....
Because think about it - it took 9 months to grow that absolute miracle that your body has just made- yes - your body. It's done something amazing and made a whole new life.
So 10 months on, theres absolutely no reason why you should have lost the weight that you gained in order to grow, nourish and keep that baby safe and make it here 9 months on.
So that's an incredible achievement mama.

So yes you have stretch marks, and yes I've looked at mine when I'd had my babies and thought oh god I'm never going to look good again, they're never going to go. And oh my goodness when people would say to me 'oh but they'll fade and go silvery and you won't even notice them" - I absolutely wanted to slap them and tell them that that was bollocks. . but it wasn't - I lost all the weight I gained for my pregnancies, and the stretch marks although there are indeed silvery and not noticeable.

I can look in the mirror and be happy with my body. Its not perfect. I don't have the flat stomach that I had before I had kids, so I'm a bit squishier even though I've lost all the weight.

10 months is just one more month it took to put the weight on so it's absolutely fine that you've not lost it.

You'll get there. Just be kind to yourself.

I remember feeling like this.
I just wanted to say that it is ok to feel like this, it’s also ok for you still spend time on yourself and not 100% on the baby. It doesn’t make you selfish or vain. It’s self care and happy mum usually means happy baby.