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What to do about bullies?

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Couldyouhelpme · 19/11/2021 13:46

My nephew has high functioning autism and ADHD. He struggles to understand social cues and since about year four has be bullied relentlessly by boys who were once his friends. He’s now just gone into year 7 and these boys are still at it. Last night my nephew said he doesn’t want to live anymore Sad

My sister and BIL have tried approaching the school and they have done nothing about it. I’ve told her she should just pull him out but obviously it’s not my place as he’s not my child. My sister isn’t the most hands on mum so doesn’t seem too affected by it, BIL has been really on the case though (they’re separated). It honestly breaks my heart, he’s the sweetest kid and wouldn’t hurt a fly.

What can we do?

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IncompleteSenten · 19/11/2021 13:47

Support your bil in trying to change schools. Ime disablist bullies don't give up and there's no happy ending for the child at that school.

coffeeisthebest · 19/11/2021 14:40

What are school doing about it? Are they aware? Does he have any other support in place that he can go to about suicidal thoughts? It's time to act. He needs action in place and if school aren't acting then he needs to change schools.

Couldyouhelpme · 19/11/2021 16:06

The school aren’t doing anything at present about it. Previously their fix was to keep my nephew separated from these children by letting him spend his breaks in a classroom reading so weren’t actually dealing with the problem. But now one of them has started cornering him during library time saying really vile stuff like calling him a fggot, getting science books on male anatomy and throwing them at him saying stuff like “oh you like cck don’t you” etc. These are 11 year old kids, what the hell? My nephew hasn’t come out as gay although shows no interest in either sex tbh but it wouldn’t matter even if he was. Honestly I would love to move him in with (completely different side of the city) and put him in a school here for a fresh start but they would never allow it I don’t think.

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Couldyouhelpme · 19/11/2021 16:08

I’m admittedly a bit triggered by this as I was bullied terribly at school and it still effects me today to the point I cannot build close friendships.

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