DF died last week but I just can't believe it

[ShitThisHurts]

I saw him after he'd passed as I knew I wouldn't believe it but I still don't ☹. I'm just completely numb and detached. Is there something wrong with me? I loved him so much, we were very close. I spoke to him every day, often more than once.

Not at all this is a very normal stage of grief. I'm very sorry for your loss.

www.healthline.com/health/stages-of-grief

There’s nothing wrong with you , this is very normal. Allow the grief however it presents - and it will change as time passes. Look after yourself and seek support when you need to.

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry OP. It is natural to feel numb, it's your mind's way of allowing you to cope with the loss.

I lost my own DF very suddenly and unexpectedly 18 months ago and I still struggle to believe it sometimes. Give yourself time and space to talk about it all and process the grief.

There is nothing wrong with your grief at all. If my Father died now (and it is expected) I would be beside myself.

Time, space, and doing whatever feels natural to you, as it is.
Cry, scream, sleep, or get on with your life and don't feel guilty if those feelings don't hit you. They may at some point - numbness is often part of it. As is anger. It's best to learn WHY you feel each feeling, ride it out and know it's all natural.

My condolences also x

So sorry OP. What you're feeling is normal, it has been a shock and too much for a person to immediately accept. Grief is a very long, complex and difficult process but does over time become less consistently consuming, even if the loss remains as vivid.

If you're in a position to, I really recommend seeking out a bereavement counsellor for some help understanding why you feel the way you feel and for guidance on how to process the burden of grief.

Took me about 6 months to appreciate what happened and accept the death. Then 3 years ish to stop crying every day. Grief is a funny thing. It gets hard when the numbness passes, make sure you have support. Sorry for your loss

OP I lost my wonderful dad in September and it still doesn’t feel real. I haven’t cried since his funeral but I miss him dreadfully. It’ll probably hit me at some point or maybe I won’t cry. I don’t think it matters, I’m still devastated inside. So I know how you feel and I’m so sorry for your loss xx

Aww OP I'm so so sorry. My dad passed away 4 weeks ago today and I'm feel like I'm still in shock about it. Even though we had been told at the start of this year that he would probably not make it to the end of the year it's just unbelievable and I'm struggling to accept it. I got to be with him for 3 days before he passed and that's all I can think about at the moment those last days together even though he was too ill really to know I was there I'm hoping somehow he knew and that it was a comfort to him. I have absolutely no advice but I just wanted you to know your not alone and to send you a big hug. Just take it moment by moment, not even day by day, just minute to minute, and let yourself feel whatever way you need that's what I've been telling myself.

Sorry about your dad op

When fil unexpectedly died, it took us months to actually accept he was gone. Literate one minute he was here, next he was gone. Even seeing him at the funeral parlour didn't seem real

I’m so sorry for your loss. My father died a couple of months ago. Its so sad. It sounds silly but it really didn’t dawn on me until about a month or so later that I’d never see him again. Like I knew he had died but that thought simply didn’t cross my mind until later on.

My father died 9 years ago. It took me along time to not think I’d seen him in the street, or driving past me. I’d seen his body, I know he was dead, but there was this tiny part of me thinking perhaps it had been faked for some reason?

I just wanted him back.

It’s only in the last year or so that I’ve started thinking wistfully that he’d enjoy that program, or be interested in that article, rather than going to email or phone him before remembering he’s not there.

Grief is weird and strange and takes a lot of time.

(Big hugs, it’s so horrible)

I'm so glad to read your post BarebelliedSneetch the week after my dads funeral I was waiting for the kids to come out of school and the very same vehicle with a man driving it that was the image of my dad passed me I was in complete disbelief and by the time the kids came out I was in tears.

@ShitThisHurts I'm so sorry for your loss, sending big hugs 🤗 xxxx

I feel the exact same just numb, my DF passed away this week. I've cried on the day, cried myself to sleep and now just nothing, I feel numb making a phone calls arranging stuff.. it's feels like the days are just endless like I'm praying for them to go away and I feel disconnected from real life going on around me. It's a very odd feeling.

My dad died quite suddenly almost 2 years ago and I sometimes still can't believe he is gone, he really was the heart of our family. So sorry for your loss OP x

Sorry for your loss. It’s still so early for you, there is no normal. You survive and you get through it any way you can. My darling dad died 8 months ago and I still pick up my phone to call him, I still can’t quite believe it’s final and I’m never going to see or hear him again. Imagining life without them will take getting used to. Feeling numb just means you can’t take it in. I had psychotherapy at the start which helped and I’d strongly recommend any type of talking therapy. Sending you so much strength.