Do you get on well with your siblings

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Or not I don’t really have a relationship with them

I have one sister (3 years older) and we are very close. She was my guiding light. I think because we were UK born but brought up in France, it made us closer.

I don't see my siblings much but do get on with them.
It's helped by having elderly parents though because we have to discuss them a lot!

My parents did a first rate job of making all of us siblings hate each other.

I don't live near mine.

I would say I'm close to my brother, although we don't see each other very much. He is a really good friend as well as a sibling. Maybe by best friend! We laugh so much when we're together and we chat a lot on the phone.

My relationship with my sister is complicated... I actually don't think she's a very nice person. I do chat to her on the phone as I want to support her and she is good fun. But I avoid seeing her for long periods (our relationship is much better in small doses) and I won't have her to stay in my house as that 'dose' is too big! She doesn't think much of me either and accuses me of having all sorts of MH conditions . I don't happen to have any MH conditions that I know of, but even if I did, I'd massively frown upon her weaponising them when she doesn't get her own way. She's a bit of a bully and a gaslight if I'm honest. But I do love her and would worry about her if she became ill. She has made some very poor life choices, but has an excellent career and is set to out earn everyone in the family. She has a bf who sounds about as unpleasant as she is. I expressed concern to begin with, but realised she doesn't want or need my advice, so I just nod and smile now. It's funny as she was always so hyper critical of people's relationships, if they weren't perfect. Now she's picked one with huuuuge 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. I mean seriouss red flags.

I've got one sister who I haven't spoken to for 10 years apart from a very brief 6 week period while our mum was dying.
Mum needed to believe that we had reconciled and I'm glad that we managed to present a facade until she died.
I haven't seen it heard from my sister since mum's funeral and I can't imagine that we will ever speak again. I don't know why she decided to cut me off and I gave up trying to make it right a very long time q.

ago

I don’t see either of mine and dh won’t have anything to do with his.

Which is a shame as once mil goes they’ve lost their only friend in life and I’ve heard what mil says about them, with friends like those who needs enemies.

We do now but we didn’t in our late teens/ twenties. Didn’t see each other for a few years at one point. But actually that was probably good as it meant we couldn’t make it worse. We live near each other now and see each other every few weeks and message most days.

At the moment I’m not speaking to one of my sisters after her husband did something so unspeakably vile (and stood up for him) that I’m not sure I can forgive either of them. My other two siblings are half siblings. One I didn’t know about until 5 years ago and the other I hadn’t spoken to in 10 years til about a month ago. No fall out, just got nothing in common. I feel saddest about the first sister I mentioned.

One of them, yes. The other one, no. They are very materialistic and very nasty. When my grandmother was very unwell she would keep taking her to the solicitors about the will. When she visits it’s constant comments on my appearance, how I should wear make up and get my hair done.

I’ve lived away from home for 20 years and glad to be away from the credit card debt just to keep up appearances, realising being happy isn’t about spending money you don’t have. I couldn’t live around that sibling, my mental health wouldn’t cope.

I think this is strange - both me and DH have okay relationships with our respective siblings, but we both feel sort of lacking in any control, if I can put it like that. I have one sister, married with kids. He has two brothers, one married with kids and one single. We are never the ones to decide when and where we see them, sometimes we don't hear from them for ages and they don't get back to us if we try and contact them. We never say anything if we feel like they've treated us badly because we're afraid they'll start on the drama and cut us off (BIL and SIL have done this to my ILs. My sister has held out silent treatment on me for ages several times and never over anything I can put my finger on and then one day she's just fine again). Our DC adores all cousins and would see them every day. It can't be a coincidence that it's the same on both sides so it must be us!!!

My brother is so far up his own arse he’s almost inside out and my sister is fucking weird and an utter narc. The shit is going to hit the fan when my parents need care (a while off because they are only in their mid 60s) because I know it is all going to fall on me. I kind of envy my only child dp.

NC with my racist bigot brother, slipping into NC with my two sisters who tolerate, if not sympathise, with his views.

I have 2 sisters and we are all close. Our husbands also all get on. Don’t know what I’d do without my sisters.

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I have a genuine soft spot for my DB, I'm sad that he lives overseas and we only message occasionally. Sadly he has no interest in me, he's quite an arrogant person who struggles to see outside his own bubble.

His health isn't great, and he had an accident recently which I heard about second hand and which made me cry, but I could never tell him I love him and miss him and worry for him. I don't think his wife likes me either.

I don't think I ever did or said anything wrong, I just don't feature.

Sorry to hear this, I'm in a very similar situation with my brother. He lives about half an hour away from me though, since he met his wife he just doesn't bother. When I try she always has other plans for him. When I see him it's always really nice, it just doesn't happen very often and it makes me really sad. I always thought I'd be good friends with his wife too but she really looks down on me. She's never invited me to any of her celebrations even though I've always invited her. After their wedding I decided I would stop making the effort, they haven't been in touch at all.

I have one brother and we’re not close. I see him once a year at Christmas at my mum’s and that’s about it. I’m not from a very close family at all.

Nope.

1 older brother who I've not seen in over 20 years.

1 younger brother who can't take responsibility for his actions and is still the golden child that can do no wrong.

So nope, don't get on with them!

Yep. Two brothers. Both twats, but they're my best friends. We talk most days and see each other often.

I like that we can just give each other a look, and we all just know what the other is thinking. This was especially helpful at my brothers wedding, when my dad fell asleep, drunk, at the top table. My brother was furious! One look toward me and I took my dad outside and sobered him up.

We've taken very different paths in life.
We don't fall out and would want to help each other in a crisis, but we don't really communicate that much as we have little in common.

I get on with them well enough when I see them, but I only really see them at family events (funerals, weddings, Christmas etc) so probably only once a year or so. I have very little contact with them otherwise, we might text each other on birthdays but that’s about it.

My brother's a drunk. And a shit. So no.

No, my sister is mean. She doesn't do small talk and is very curt to the point of being really rude. She's a professional but isn't like that with her colleagues or anyone else, just our mum and I. Even mum can't make excuses any more when she's been talking to DSis. It's just a resigned, "You know how xxxx is".
It's only ever me who phones DSis, never the other way round and if I didn't I think our relationship would be completely none existent. It's a shame.

One sister I do but she lives overseas so don't see her much. The other sister has cut us both off cos she is a bit unstable. I have several friends that I am closer to than my sisters.

One sister, 2 years between us and we didn't have much of a relationship in our late teens/twenties. We're both in our 50s now and she's absolutely my best friend, I only wish we lived closer to each other.

We tolerate each other. We're polar opposites and have nothing in common.

I would have loved to have had a really close bond and friendship with her, but I gave up. She has a very spiteful side, and is now deeply patronising so I have little desire to see her.