Cancer and Divorce - anyone else in this boat?

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I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and part way through treatment, I realised my marriage wasn't working. It hadn't been for a while and his total lack of emotional support for me throughout treatment became unbearable. I left the marriage while still on chemo. I'm mid 30s. We have two small children. It's been pretty hard, even though the separation/pending divorce is amicable. Treatment was successful and all over now thankfully and now I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my life.

I was just wondering if anyone else had this happen and how they dealt with all the grief of both things.

Goodness, not in that situation but you’re really been through it…. Be kind to yourself and good luck 💐

I’m in a similar-ish situation, but I’m older than you - mid-50s - and my children are in their early 20s. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, had surgery but did not have chemo. Marriage was a bit doddery then - but DH wanted to leave me, so that puts a different spin on things compared to you. DH was supportive and kind throughout treatment. We had counselling and muddled through. Unfortunately, my cancer returned a year later, more aggressive and invasive. This time DH was not at all emotionally supportive and he now wants out of the marriage. I don’t. I’m not coping so well, so can’t give tips about dealing with grief.

Thank you for your kind words @KingRoloIV

@Snowiscold I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I wish I had some wiser words for you but I feel lost in it too. Wishing you all the strength and resilience to get through this and come out the other side far better and happier.

My friend went through this, they'd agreed to split and then she found a lump. I think he went to first appointment with her then left her too it, but whether that was her choice or not I don't know. No children for her though. I thinks it's easy to think he should have stood by her at the time but actually on reflection she was/is better off without him. It's so much to deal with for you and your kids anyway that the last thing you need is him moping about in the house with you all.

She has come through the other side now several years on and a new business that is doing well, she bought her ex out if the house and I think is now very happy.

Wishing you strength and hope to get through it all