Baby shower question

[awesomekilick]

I'm old and am going to my first baby shower.

Do I give a card as well as a present?!

Thanks

I’d say a card is a must, present is an extra.

I’d say no card, small present definitely!

Yeah a card congratulating them on the arrival of their baby before the birth seems to tempt fate to me tbh! I am quite superstitious though.

I'd say present at baby shower, then send a card after the birth. No need for another present though.

@TheLovleyChebbyMcGee
I got lots of cards, none of them said “congratulations on your new arrival” or anything. Most people wrote lovely notes about surviving pregnancy, tips for birth, things to do before baby arrives.

I don’t understand how a card is tempting fate but buying something for the same unborn child isn’t?

Omg so that's clear as mud!

What would the card say? Congratulations on your baby shower? Is that a thing?

I don’t think it really matters. Your friend will just be pleased you went.

It is almost impossible to find cards specifically for a baby shower, which I took to assume it's not a thing. From my experience (both having had one thrown for me and attending a few) is that either the organiser arranges for a gift from the attendees who all contribute, or everyone brings a small gift. Card definitely optional.

I personally wouldn’t give card or a present until baby is safely delivered.
However I think it’s the “done thing” at these events to give a small present….as in showering the mother with stuff.

At my baby shower, people mostly gave gifts, I think I only got a few cards.

You can get "on your baby shower" cards, but I think they're a bit odd. Most people just wrote on the gift tag "congratulations" or "looking forward to your arrival" if the gift was for the baby

Yeah, too confusing. I just wouldn't go. I dont know the etiquette and have no desire to find out.

I'm in the US and most people here do a card and a present.

Most of the cards we received said something like "Congratulations, we're so excited to meet her!"

I'd take a small gift - no card.
I'd wait till baby is born to send a card.