Help really struggling

[Helloworld91]

Hi. This is my first post. I’ve been reading mumsnet for years . Looking for advice I’ve been suffering with depression and anxiety all my life but never asked for help as I feel embarrassed. Also I am worried they would take my son away . It got a lot worse after my son was born. He is 5 now . Every day is a struggle I try to do my best for him . Want to make myself better for his sake . Today is the first day I reached out and made phone appointment with my gp to get some antidepressants. They are ringing me back next week. Any advice what to say ? I feel really bad like this is my last chance don’t want them to say you’re fine or not understand me. I’ve only got one shot at this. Trying to stay alive till next week when they ring me. Thanks for listening

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Just sending a hug. It's always hard. Your doing your best. Speak to health visitor and see if you can get some help to calm your worries xxx

Just tell them what you've said here. Cry if you need to .. say anything that springs to mind xx

They won't take your son away for depression and anxiety. Half the blooming U.K. suffers with it and so long as he's housed, fed and happy there's no issue.

Just be honest with them. Tell them you're extremely low and emphasise that it's impacting your life and wellbeing. GPs are very used to treating depression and will usually listen. You can set refer for counselling at IAPT.

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Thanks all for your advice ! I do try to do my best , go to work and all the jobs it’s just getting too much and harder to ignore or brush under the carpet. My main worries are : they will put me in hospital or won’t believe me. I’m trying not to think bad thoughts but it’s getting harder and harder to not give up. Always thought no one gonna believe me or I will get in trouble

You have made the first step towards getting help by making the appointment. I am guessing that wasn’t easy, so well done. There is no reason why they wouldn’t believe you or why you would get in trouble for this. And they won’t take your son away.
Would it help if you wrote down what you want to say in case your mind goes blank in the appointment or you don’t know how to start? They are likely to ask what you want e.g medication, counselling? Have a think about the answer, but it’s also ok to not know and see what they advise.
Before my appointment I had done a questionnaire on the nhs website. I probably found it by googling how do you know if you’re depressed. It covers anxiety and depression. The GP asked a lot of the same questions. It helped a bit to know what to expect.
Please keep going until next week. I get how hard that can be, but it will be worth it if you can get some help and feel better.

Thanks will try and make a little list what to say , you’re right my mind would go blank . Can they give antidepressants straight away or will send me counselling which would be in my opinion waste of time and more useful for someone else. How can I make them take me seriously without sounding like I need to go in hospital

@Helloworld91

Thanks will try and make a little list what to say , you’re right my mind would go blank . Can they give antidepressants straight away or will send me counselling which would be in my opinion waste of time and more useful for someone else. How can I make them take me seriously without sounding like I need to go in hospital

You have to be a severe risk to yourself or other people to be hospitalised. They are likely to ask if you have thoughts of harming yourself. I answered that honestly (I had suicidal thoughts) and nothing terrible happened, no talk of hospital or my children being taken away. It was ok. I think if you tell the dr how your depression and anxiety affects you, they will take you seriously. I was prescribed antidepressants at the appointment. We discussed counselling, I said I would think about it, there was no pressure.