Almost 40 and trying to conceive through IVF

[Chica81]

Hello everyone,new in here.
First of all say that English is my second language. So sorry in advance if my grammar is not perfect
I am almost 40 and we have been trying to conceive for 4 year and I think this is relevant. I am a nursery practitioner so my life if full of love of children and absolutely love my carer, we just need our own family to grow.
Sometimes this environment can be bitter sweet when you are trying to get pregnant.

In 2019 we learned that due to low egg reserve and endometriosis our best chance to conceive was to have an egg donation and that before I had to had an op to treat the endometriosis.
That was very hard to digest, but we did it. Then that pandemic hit our lives. I managed to have the op I September 2020.
We made the arrangements to have the egg donation in my natal country because there is not waiting list for it there and egg donators are younger.
So we manage to go and we had 5 precious good quality embryos. We had our first tranfer in April 2021. Unfortunately this was unsuccessful.
Another heart breaking event to add to our journey.
Now we are in our 8th day after the second tranfer. Nerve-wracking .
I am trying to eat healthily and keep hopeful.
Any one in similar situation?

Glad that I found this forum to chat about fertility, family and love

No personal experience, but wanted to let you know that there is hope - my daughter went through IVF at 39 and now has a beautiful boy of 20 months. I pray the same happens for you 💐

Thank you for your prays, Olderkids.
That's the kind of outcome that give happiness for you all and hope for us.

Wishing every bit of luck OP!

I conceived twice with IVF, first at 35 then then 40, both times successful pregnancies. Now have 14 and 18 year old ds's. I had very few eggs each time, second attempt only 2 eggs but managed to develop OHSS with ds1 . Wishing you loads of luck, it's an incredibly stressful time.

I have been trying to conceive for over 7 years. I have tried all natural methods. I was monitoring my period, taking vitamins, eating healthy, etc. After a year of unsuccessful attempts, and turning 42 ... I decided to visit a clinic that was recommended to me and let the specialist study my case. I finally got my Dx and to my surprise it was ENDO. To be honest, I don't know what to do. I am very lost. I'm sure that I want to be a mother, but is it possible for me to get pregnant naturally? Who goes / went through the same? Now I am really considering IVF or going straight to egg donation due to my age ... I am going to start the ovarian reserve tests, follicle count, etc to see how I am and to see what treatment they recommend. Someone with a similar situation? Thank you

Hel polishgirl,
I can relate lots to your experience.
Went to tge first fertility appoinment when I was 38.Due to my low egg reserve an endometriosis the Dr told us that our best shot was going to be egg donation.
Itbwas hard to digest that we did.
I think it important here believe your resilience as a person.
After that we had 5 really good embryos and after our second round of IVF I am 5 weeks pregnant!
I think that going for a egg donation was the best choice for us because we didn't want to loose more time trying with my low reserve which is very draining emotionally and of course morey to add to it if it does not work.
I hope this help
All the best

Hi Chica81,
Congratulations! I am really happy for you and your pregnancy. It is very comforting to read the news that despite all efforts someone has managed to fulfil their dream of becoming a parent. Thank you very much for your massage it really cheered me up. I am considering egg donation right now. I don’t want waste more time. I am doing research about best clinics to do the fertility treatment using the egg donation. Do you have any recommendation about clinics, doctors etc...? I will really appreciate any help and tip! Thanks again and all the best for you and your little one 😊

That's amazing news!!

@purpledagger I know! So happy.
Thank you all gor your support here.
Xx

Hi @Polishgirl,
Thank you for all the lovery good wishes.
I tell you a bit of my experience...
I guess fertility clinics vary depending where you live.
Here, in Sussex, we went to this amazing clinic called The Agora.
After a consulation we learnt that egg donation in UK can take 12 months or more.
Then we find some more information in clinics in my natal country,Spain.
We had a consultation there in clinic with years of experience called Crea in Valencia.
In spain is very different than UK in terms of they have the biggest egg donor bank of Europe and donors are younger than here. So therefore more chances of a successful pregnancy. Also legislation is different and they have a great intenational department so language will no be an issue.
I hope polishgirl this help.
Best of luck in your journey.
Xx