Family reset button?

[parrotonmyshoulder]

What do you do when it feels like everything is wrong? I feel like we need to pause, regroup, work things out. But nobody has the strength to do it.
We can’t cut our hours really. Both high stress jobs. Big improvements in mine recently as I no longer have to commute, ans DH has reduced his commuting days too.
DD (13) very, very unhappy at school. I spend a lot of time helping work this out, speaking to school, trying to get things improved. It looks like a school change is on the cards. She is, by consequence, also unhappy a lot of the time at home.
DS needs to be very active and social. I don’t provide him with this enough.
Everyone seems permanently exhausted and lethargic. I can’t get on top of healthy meals or a routine that meets everyone’s needs. Weekends are often based around chores although we do other things together.

Perhaps it’s a bit seasonal on top. I also have elderly parents living quite far away who I can’t see at the moment.

I’m feeling defeated. I don’t want to take on all the mental load to fix things. Not depressed.

Helpful stories, anyone?

I think you'll find DD improves at home once things are sorted at school or moved school.
Any after school clubs for DS?

Get a cleaner, free your weekends up for your family time.

Meal plan. Order shop online.

Absolutely no advice but just wanted to say you are not alone.

We are the same Dh just turned 50 and not coping with it well, dd suffering headaches, doctors not concerned but I am very worried and no idea what to do now. Ds struggling a bit at school reading and writing level is a bit low I need to make time to read with him but sometimes it's gone 9 when I finish clearing up in the evening and he is already in bed. We are all like ships that pass in the night, work, school, homework, activities, so even if I had the time for healthy dinners there is pretty much only 1 or 2 nights a week we all eat at the same time. I feel like I am on treadmill I just react no time to be proactive and if I did I haven't the energy. I need a holiday just to plan a holiday.

I am hoping it's just a stage of life and things will get easier.

Thanks. DS does do after school club (childcare) and sports clubs after school.
Cleaner, in place. But she doesn’t do tidying, of course!
Meal planning. I know we need to do this. I might try to make a weekend routine of sitting together to do this. We haven’t had deliveries for years but could try again.
I have ADHD (as does DS) which doesn’t help as I really, really struggle to set and stick to routines.
The difficulties with DD are so emotionally draining as well as time consuming. I think that is the most challenging part of this.

@ChilliMum
Thank you! Strangely makes me feel so much better. Someone needs to do toddler style groups for mums of a ‘certain age’. I feel I need more help now than I did back then.
I have ideas for DD, but not the energy to execute more than the basics.
The looming of Christmas is just shoved to the back of my mind but I prickle up whenever anyone mentions it!