Long story but I've had a tough time finding suitable child are for my DD, now 17 months. I've put my (self-employed) career on hold to stay home and care for her (DH works long hours in full time work) but it's had a toll on my mental health as I've found the adjustment to full time SAHM of a lively toddler from independent working woman quite hard (probably pandemic didn't help) after traumatic birth experience etc etc yada yada... I think I've had a bit of delayed onset depression after everything.
Anyway I posted on here before and was encouraged to get childcare sorted ASAP part-time so I can get a break, some time to myself, and try to kickstart my line of work again.
All of the local nurseries were full and so we've been looking at getting a nanny part-time 2 days per week. So far so good...
However, here is my question. DH and I have, after much discussion, decided to relocate to a different area of London, where we feel our quality of life and that of our DD will be better. We hope to do this in the new year once he has his payrise and new contract through in January. We have been doing a nanny search but so far all the candidates are local to our current area, so we would have to let them go after Xmas and this doesn't seem very fair to them or DD.
The new area is commutable from here but probably around 45 minutes. Do we look for a nanny based in the new area, or somewhere in between so that when we move we can take the nanny with us?
The other issue is that we have found the ideal nursery for DD which she is allowed to start after she turns 2, which will be at the start of next July. On the one hand I don't know if I should just try to stick it out looking after her until then but on the other hand I know for my well-being I need some support now.
Would it be ok to employ a nanny and then terminate their contract after only 5 months or so? (Probably by the time we've found one).
I'm asking so many questions I know but I'm so confused. No family to support us and I've been a bit overwhelmed.