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Can’t keep a job

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CleverQuacks · 16/11/2021 10:28

So I might be flamed for this but I really need advice. I will start by saying I have complex mental health issues. Current diagnosis swings between bipolar and borderline personality disorder.

When I first started working (aged 19) I loved working. I was passionate and got continual praise about my work. I felt proud and like I had a purpose.

Then in 2016 I moved into a new role. Quite senior, well paid etc but absolutely hated it. I worked there for two and a half years and was miserable for the whole time. In the end I went off sick and then quit.

Since then I have had five other jobs and it’s always the same pattern. I start off excited about the job, thinking this is the perfect job for me. Then after about a month I start to feel overwhelmed, I panic and then walk out.

I am on universal credit but it’s not enough to live on so I am dipping into my savings every month. These will run out very soon so I need to find a job and stick at it.

I just don’t know how to get out of this pattern. I feel that if I could get through that panic that sets in after the first month then maybe things will get better but I just don’t know how to do that.

I miss feeling passionate and fulfilled about my work. I used to have such purpose with my work and it was a big part of my identity. I want that back.

Can anyone give me any advice? How do I break this pattern?

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FortunesFave · 16/11/2021 11:30

What's your area? Have you considered working for yourself?

I have ASD and as a result, find social situations almost impossible. I've worked as a freelance writer for 11 years.

It's been something that has allowed me to gain confidence and an income...with nobody to answer to but myself.

My DH has some MH issues and I helped him set up as a painter and decorator last year. It's much better for him...he can pick and choose jobs and only deal with people he likes.

We're not rich but we can pay the bills.

Could you work for yourself? What skills and qualifications have you got?

AtLeastPretendToCare · 16/11/2021 11:32

What is it in the jobs that make you feel overwhelmed? Can you identify a pattern?

CleverQuacks · 16/11/2021 14:35

I work in family support / social care type work. Although my last job was in a nursery which I loved to start with but then it all got to much. I don’t know what I would do to work for myself, I don’t really have any skills and I don’t think I would have the motivation to see it through.

I am not sure what overwhelms me. I just feel so anxious the whole time that it’s exhausting.

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Twitchynose · 16/11/2021 18:13

Have you ever looked into the Access to Work Mental Health support scheme?
You can apply online www.gov.uk/access-to-work or direct to the two providers www.remploy.co.uk/about-us/current-programmes/access-work-mental-health-support-service or able-futures.co.uk/individuals

CleverQuacks · 16/11/2021 18:25

Thank you! I have not heard of access to work. I will look into it. I am open to any help I can get.

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