My dsis SD is 24 and has a 7 and 4 year old.
The guy she with is not good to her. They have been together about 5 years. He has been in and out (mainly out) of work for most of that time, hardly earning any money. He regularly bleeds her dry of her benefits, takes the money and goes awol for several days (we think he’s with other women or doing drugs with ‘mates’) and leaves her and the kids without stuff.
She regularly has the bailiffs round, there are no carpets on the floor, she is often without food and when the kids were babies she was often without milk/nappies etc.
BIL has looked at her bank statements and there are huge payments to JD Sport, casinos and take always places, none of that is for her or the kids!
He is a schizophrenic and often says he doesn’t need meds.
I am not sure if he has been physical in the past but he has definitely been verbal to her and the kids (especially her eldest, she isn’t his).
He attacked my BIL a couple of years ago when he went over to help his daughter.
Recently, she has said her partner has become physical, he tried to strangle her the other week and has threatened to throw acid over her.
She has had a crap life and an awful childhood and has zero confidence. She just can not see that she is a beautiful young lady with a whole world ahead of her. She says she loves him, she won’t leave. She has never reported his behaviour to anyone. He has obviously been gaslighting her for years, as does her own mother (she can not rely on this person).
Obviously, my BIL and my sister are beyond concerned, I can’t stop thinking about her either, she is such a lovely girl.
Where can my BIL go from here? What can he do to help his dd and grandchildren?
It’s such a worry.