Should I quit job

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I had a job I liked - great firm well paid safe and solid. I was offered another job - very well paid life changingly so. I took the new role. I don't like the new job - difficult people and I feel isolated and stressed every day. I could probably go back to the old job if I wanted to. But the money is very difficult to walk away from. I know money isn't everything but it does help with eg being able to retire and have an easier life in terms of bills and mortgage etc. I don't know how bad it would have to get for me to quit. I know that if the money wasn't as good I would have quit after a month or so. Now I don't know what to do. It is possible I can keep going and it could become bearable. But that is as good as it will get. Is it worth trying to get to bearable for the financial security? Or should I just go back to my old job where I have friends and I am not isolated etc and say good bye to the money? How do I make this choice? I don't have any financial dependents and my life is very flexible - which is both a blessing and a curse as it means this just comes down to me. In the current role there are no viable routes for me to improve the environment - it is not a hierarchical structure there is no HR etc. Just me and other people who have to work together and just get on with stuff and achieve results.

Only you can answer it really.
But if you can be comfortable financially and not hate your job, then that would win for me every time.

I would personally go back to the job you liked, providing having left wouldn't affect how they treated you. I think it's important to be happy in your work day to day, rather than working at something you dislike for a pension you may never get.

I would do better paid one for a few more months & save up & then go back to job where I was happy.

Thank you - something is stopping me and I can't figure out what. I know I would be happier going back to the old role. I feel like it is the money but I agree with the above - I do feel day to day happiness is more important. For some reason I just feel stuck - like going back would be a failure

How much is the difference?
How much mortgage do you have left?
How long til you retire?
How many dependants do you have?

I doubled my salary. Large mortgage but I am early 40s so have time. No dependents - husband has a job (much lower paid).

I want to be resilient and be stronger and able to cope with the difficult aspects. Is there a point though in life where you just think enough. I don't need to struggle and push through.

Re pension I may never have - agree with this. I didn't have much financial stability when I was growing up and my worst nightmare now would be not having enough money. I only met my husband in my late 30s and for most of my adult life it was a struggle and I had debt from university and professional studies. I don't really trust that any amount of money would be "enough".

Tonight I feel sick that I have to go to work tomorrow. Not for any particular reason - I just know it will be difficult and stressful. I have a lot of autonomy in the new role and I like that. But it also means I have to create my own structure and priorities, without a team around me. I really miss working with people I like and who I can trust. But also I know that that type of environment is rare and many people don't love their jobs and push on through. I feel weak I guess.

Mental health is more important than money.

Don’t suffer a job you don’t like, just for money, it is not worth it.

Maybe the last job was not right either. Keep looking and find something else, that you like.
Good luck.

Saying you doubled, could mean you went from 20 to 40 or 40 to 80?

No pension? That's worrying

How long have you been in the role? Can you use it as a stepping stone to another role?

I have a lot of autonomy in the new role and I like that. But it also means I have to create my own structure and priorities, without a team around me. I really miss working with people I like and who I can trust.
Can you create your own team?