Blighted Ovum - waiting for miscarriage

[Lottie2267]

Hello
I’m 7 weeks plus 4 days pregnant. I had brown discharge a few days ago but midwife said they wouldn’t send me for an early scan unless I had a heavy bleed. I decided to pay for a private scan yesterday and was diagnosed with a blighted ovum :( it’s so sad and both me and my husband are quite upset.

I rang the early pregnancy unit this morning and they said they won’t see me because of COVID. The woman was really lovely on the phone but I just feel so alone. She said I have to wait for the miscarriage to happen at home and that it should happen in the next 3 weeks. She also gave me information on how to cope with the pain and bleeding.

I know this sounds terrible but I just want It over now, I am still having symptoms that I’m pregnant which is making it worse. Do you think I should see if I can have an abortion pill to just get it over now? She said that if it doesn’t happen naturally in 3 weeks to call back and they would give me medication to help it happen which I assume is the same pills they use for abortion?

I really don’t know what to do. I feel so helpless, my husband is amazing but I don’t think I can mentally cope going through weeks of waiting for the miscarriage to come.

Is anyone else going through this? I think things are worse now because of COVID but I feel so alone. I have never posted on here before but hope someone can help / give advice. Thanks x

@Turtles25

Hey. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. This was me, 8 years ago. Only I didn't find out until I was 10 weeks. I was bleeding (like a light period) when I went to EPU. This is when I found out. Early hours of the next morning, I started contracting and then about 8am, I got up and felt like something was going to go, so ran to the toilet and that's when the blood gushed. It lasted 3 hours (I literally couldn't leave the toilet) lots of big clots came out and my DH called the ambulance as I was in so much pain. It was my first pregnancy so I didn't have labour to compare it too. It was just like labour. Got to A&E and was given morphine before being discharged. So I don't blame you for wanting it out of you ASAP. Look after yourself. X

This isn't the experience for most people so I don't want to scare you but just popping on to say I had something similar after taking the tablets.

I was basically having contractions like labour for a few hours...with the same amount of pain as labour until eventually I had the same gushing feeling (it wasn't blood, I guess it was amniotic fluids) and then the pain stopped. I also went to A&E and was given morphine.

For many (most?) people it's like a bad crampy stomach ache but it can be like labour. I think if id have known this it would have been a lot less scary!

(I also had a reaction to the pills so was projectile vomiting at the same time but I think that's quite rare).

How are you OP?

I had a blighted ovum last year, i was offered medical management as surgical was not happening due to covid or to wait it out. I took the medical management which failed then decided to let nature take its course. It took around 18 weeks all together. Luckily I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms after 8 weeks when I found out.

Hi guys

Thanks for you all sharing your experiences - good and bad. It’s good to be prepared for what’s to come.

So I rang the epu yesterday and they said for me to come in for a scan on Monday. I asked if I could come in yesterday instead which they eventually agreed to.

Had the scan and it was confirmed by them also that I have a blighted ovum. They have said that I have to go back for a scan next Friday and then if I haven’t miscarried by then naturally, I can be given the medication.

It’s not the best but it’s better than waiting 3 weeks! I’ve tried every possible way of getting abortion medication. The sexual health clinic got back to me yesterday and said I would have to go back to my gp or the epu. I also spoke with BPAS who don’t offer people in our area an abortion and I would have to go through my local hospital. I honestly dread to think what people living around here have to do for an abortion if that’s what they want.

Anyway, I’m gonna go back to the hospital next Friday and then request the medication. I have still been spotting black blood with little clots (sorry if that’s tmi) it got a bit heavier this morning but now has completely eased off again. I’m really hoping it just starts soon as I just want it all over with. We will try to conceive again in the new year, fingers crossed!

Hi everyone

Just an update in case anyone is following and going through something similar.

Still no miscarriage as of yet

Doesn’t seem like anything is going to start this week tbh so will be going back to the hospital on Friday morning and praying that they will give me the medication to help it along.

I will let you know how Friday goes. Hopefully only 2 more days of waiting left x

You poor thing, hopefully you get some proper help.on Friday

Thank you @ChimChimeny, I really hope so x

Good luck tomorrow, thinking of you

Another here thinking of you ,how awful ,I'm so sorry .

Thank you so much @ChimChimeny and @peridito I really appreciate it. I feel quite nervous. My appointment is 9.30am so will will let you know how it all goes x

Hi op I had very similar situation with a blighted ovum detected at a private scan at 9 weeks. I had to have two scans at the EPU a week apart so they could confirm zero growth in a week before they would continue with management and the week wait was horrible.

I had a 2 year old at home so asked for a surgical management so can't comment on the tablets but I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.

I didn't get my period for about 6 weeks following that but I fell pregnant in my next cycle.

Hope today goes as smoothly as possible for you

Thank you @Impatientwino. Amazing that you were able to get pregnant so quickly after as well. I hope that will be the same for us. Yes the last week has felt so long, I’m just glad the day is finally here and hopefully we can start moving forward x

Thinking of you @Lottie2267 .Of course you feel nervous .

Glad your appt is early in the day .

Soon this will be behind you x

Hi everyone

Just out of the hospital, don’t really know what to say :( basically they could see a white dot in the sac today but no yolk. The sac has also grown 5mm, which is slower than normal growth.

They have said it’s still very likely that it’s a missed miscarriage but because Of these two reasons I have to wait another week and they will not give me the medication until then. I understand why they have to do it but the doctor said it didn’t look like a normal pregnancy so I can’t see anything coming from it and do not want any false hope. I just feel so deflated, not sure how I will get through another a week. I know it’s not that long in the grand scheme of things but the last week has felt like a lifetime and now I have to go through it all again. My last period was 19th of September so I know I haven’t got my dates wrong :(

Oh goodness ,you poor thing !

I know how I felt waiting for a termination when it was discovered that things weren't right .It's just agony .

Bad enough that your hopes have been dashed ,but to have to go through all this uncertainty and waiting is torture .

I hope the staff were kind and thoughtful .

Take it easy and treat yourself if you can . Sympathies to your partner as well .

Are you still doing ok @Lottie2267?

Thank you @peridito, this last week has felt very long. All staff have been nice apart from the doctor / consultant who has actually been doing the scans and advising us. She has been quite rude. I assume it’s just because she sees so many people with the same thing every day, but there we go. I’m hoping to have somebody else today but I doubt it ha. Never mind, hopefully today will be the last day I have to go there!! x

Hi @ChimChimeny I am doing ok thank you. Feeling nervous this morning but hoping this will be the last time. Our appointment is at 9 so nice and early. Will keep you updated on how it goes. Thank you for checking in x

Bless you ,you are being so stoic .
No excuse for anyone to be curt or offhand . All the staff deal with many people with the same thing every day ,if they can manage to be kind then so can your doctor .
But as you say ,oh well .Good and bad in all jobs I guess .
Thinking of you .

Thank you @peridito

Just home now. I had a really lovely lady today, she was so much better than the woman I had previous times. She asked me way more questions and I got the impression she doesn’t think much of the woman id seen previously, it sounded like there has been a few complaints.

Anyway, she explained everything and she said as the sac is still growing she can’t legally offer me the medication. However, she has said by next week she will be able to and she’s booked me in for medical management next Friday at 11.

I cried a bit on the way home as I was hoping for it to all be over this week but I guess there is light at the end of the tunnel now, just another week of waiting :( hoping it will go quick

Gosh another week waiting just seems so cruel ☹️

It's good you had a nicer person today, there's no excuse for being rude or Curt with someone who is vulnerable in any way, you need looking after in a situation like this