Feeling like a fucking failure at adulting atm

[Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep]

Missed my flu jab.
Missed both the kids' virtual parents teacher conferences.
Constantly struggling to stay on top of laundry. Working FT in a job that I'll finish in a week and then starting a new one that's longer hours and I will be having to start from scratch - learning my way, reputation building, working out priorities and when I need to work more and when I can be more flexible....

I'm panicking and exhausted and stressed and just feeling like shit. My ex is relatively involved with co parenting, but all the major parenting shite is on my shoulders - looking at secondary schools. Pushing for the EHCP, Buying new school shoes, home shoes. Winter coats. Dentist appointments, who needs what uniform on what days and when is a packed lunch needed for a school trip and who's the current best friend and do I need to buy a present for a birthday party and and and....

There are just so many fucking balls and this week I have just started dropping them and I hate myself for it. I try so so hard to be organic it doesn't come naturally and it's all coming tumbling down.

Also I find on overthinking that giving it a context:-

Will this decision/cock up matter in
5 mins
5 days
5 months
5 years?

bogrollBOGOFF am not a natural adult anyway Can relate massively.

Apart from the fun bits like having sex, drinking, and driving somewhere to walk all day in complete solitude that is.

While I’m with my people, can I just share: Schools can fuck off to the far side of fuck with their unnecessary extraneous last minute demands that can often prove to be the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Fuck you World Book Day
Fuck you Christmas jumper day.
Fuck you water bottles and book bags and reading records when if DS2 who is probably also neurodivergent remembers his coat from day to day it’s a bleeding miracle.
Fuck you Sports Day.
Fuck you two schools having inset days at completely different times.
Fuck you genuinely being expected to drive a 260 mile round trip to take DS1 to a sports competition. *

*not an exhaustive list

@crackofdoom amen to your list. I’d also like to reserve a special place in hell for whoever thinks constantly changing days for PE clothing every term is helpful.

OP- I hear you. Lone parent as DH decided to drop down dead one Sunday afternoon, no family support, work full time as a senior child protection social worker. But we have got there- it has not been easy, but we are a happy house. DC is loved, supported and now is rocking her GCSE's and we have have a great relationship. You have got this- it does not harm our children to see life is a struggle at times. In the past I think I got the balance wrong but since I have really focused on what I preach life at home has improved. We need to be emotionally available to our children, meeting basic needs and being a robot to a routine is just not enough. Slow down, listen, read together and have fun and giggles. As long as your house is not a health hazard, kids have clean uniform and are fed the rest does not matter. You are one person who is stronger than you think you are.

Also whoever thinks that themed dress up days are "fun" deserves a special place in hell. We had two last week. I've now got to the point where I just let them go in whatever they fancy (and sod the theme), I'm not buying special stuff for this.

Lone parent 100% here
I love the Fuck You list, am going to start my own

I once showed up at pediatrician's appointment on the wrong day and I don't have ADHD! You are doing really well though as a single mom of two SN kids! It's a struggle on some days for me with a severely disabled adult son with a very involved husband!