Twin party, two presents?

[RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime]

DD is going to a 6th birthday party next weekend. She's friends with one of the twins but not the other, though they're all in the same class.

Do we take a present for just 'our' twin, or both?

Both

Smaller present for each twin

Was she invited by one twin or both? If invited by only one, then a present for that child, if invite was from both then two presents.

Ah both, I know it's more money but the poor other child!!!!

I'd personally get something for both.

Both.

Twin mum here, at 6 I would take a gift for both. Did the invitation have both children's names on it? As my twins got older, they invited separately and would just get a gift from the kids they invited. However, now at 16 they are in the same small friendship group so the whole group buy for each other at birthdays and Christmas.

I'd buy for both. Don't think it would be worth the risk of upset for the sake of a few quid.

We were told each twin could choose five guests and DD was one of the girl twin's guests.

But the invitation itself says 'Girl twin and Boy twin's party'

I would have generally said both if its a joint party, though DS had a female twin friend at primary school.

Girl twins, twin 1 always invited girls, twin 2 always invited boys.

DS only ever took present for twin 2, as although joint party they had completely separate friendship groups. DS didn't really know twin 1, though

Looks like both then! It wasn't the money, more that it might look odd giving a present to someone you're not friends with IYSWIM

And I have not the foggiest what to get him! DD never plays with him so don't know what he likes.

My DD is good friends with a twin. We took a present for both, but DD knows twin1 better so chose something she knew he would love. We chose something smaller/more generic for twin2 who DD doesn't really know or play with.

You could ask the parent for ideas for the boy, and they might well say just get a present for the inviting twin.

Twin mum here…mine are 9 and have always had joint parties bar one (their choice). I’ve only ever sent invitations from them individually, eg, dd sent invites from just her and ds from just him. People have only ever bought for ‘their’ twin and I wouldn’t expect any different!

I've got a wee Lego set, would rather give a present unexpectedly than not give one where we should...

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When DS (11) was invited by one twin, we got a 'proper' present for the inviter, and a bag of sweets for their sibling - from asking other parents, that was a fairly common solution

But that was 11 year olds, not 6 year olds... can you see what other people are doing? Or just ask the parents?

@RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime

I've got a wee Lego set, would rather give a present unexpectedly than not give one where we should...

Thanks

That's exactly what I would have done. A small but decent gift for the other twin.

In your case it does seem like the invite is from girl twin so it wouldn't have mattered if boy twin didn't get a present but a small token gift is perfect just in case for him. I'd feel weird not taking something.

As an identical twin I say buy both children a present

Definitely both!

One gift; walkie talkies! ;)

When our DTs were smaller, we used to have "joint" friends plus some for her and some for him and the invitations were written accordingly. If the invitation was from just one of them, then the friends knew who they were buying a gift for. Nobody had a or with this.

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@RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime

We were told each twin could choose five guests and DD was one of the girl twin's guests.

But the invitation itself says 'Girl twin and Boy twin's party'

Only buy for your child's friend

And I have not the foggiest what to get him! DD never plays with him so don't know what he likes
Colouring stuff/stickers/slinky/play doh/matchbox cars always do the job, it's a very safe age that theyll just be excited with a present!!