Morning I'm not sure what to do here. My son is 14 and refusing to go to school. He did not go for 3 weeks. I know this was wrong of me. But I did try a bribe him by saying if he went to school for a month he could get a snake. He did go for a month although it was not easy. In all it cost me 250 pounds which is a lot of money to me. So we went to the pet shop paid for everything we could not actually bring it home that day as the pet shop was going to deliver the viv a few days later. But as I have paid for everything ds was ok with it . We brang the food bowls home. As we Came in ds was pretending he had the snake under is coat and and was in a good kind of mood.
We went to order mc donalds as I could not be bothered to cook. I told ds he could have up to 6.00 for his meal. He kept pushing and pushing that he wanted more I had to tell him 3 or 4 times and point out how much money I had just spent on him. His mood completely changed he stormed upstairs and started smashing the cupboard door up that's at the top of my stairs. Later he tried to say he was upset about the snake but his mood only changed when I said he could not have extra from mcdonalds and the fact of how he came in joking that he had the snake.
He has been extremely aggressive to me for months. To the point that I feel scared of him. My other children are scared of him as well. My daughter has told Me she is scared he will hit me . He's also smashed 3 holes in to a large room devider.
Because of this I have told him he's no longer getting the snake.
If my daughter laughs in her room he will start banging on the wall burst in her bedroom and shout at her. But he is allowed music on to laugh with his friends etc.
I have a dog who's quite nerves and I don't 100% trust her. I will let ds walk her but only if I'm with him. He kept trying to take her out alone. I told him no as if something was to happen I would be in alot of trouble. He was very aggressive with me and told me he was going to hit someone if I did not give him the lead. I said to him so who you going to hit then. He then slapped my phone out of my hand shouted bitch and left the house. He came back about an hour later .
He tells me he cant control he's anger . He can as he selects who he's angry with. It's me who suffers the most from it and who he's mainly abusive to.
(When) he gos to school he has counselling. We are waiting on camhs who sent us a rejection letter so we are appealing that. I'm waiting on 3 other places to get back to me that can offer him support. I have tried offering for me and him to spent tome together he refused I have looked at a youth scheme who work with children who refuse school he refused that. He also keeps saying I don't care and is aggressive with me because I can't give a clear answer vabiut camhs but I can only tell him what they tell me.
He admits there is nothing going on at school for him not to go. When he is there he's normally happy joking with his friends. Although he does refuse some lessons abd takes himself of to the library . It's just he does not like the lesson.
Other the weekend just gone he called social services told them he's not going home and he needs somewhere to stay. He was told to come home. Yesterday his mood was ok. He watched 2 films at home ( refused ) school. Then he suddenly left with a big bag. He turned up at school telling them he's not coming home so they called social services who called me. Who again told him to go home.
He even admits that there is no reason why he cant be at home. He admits he's not in any type of danger.
He's now refusing school again until I buy him a phone. I told him he's not getting anything until he started going to school and stops being abusive towards me. I told him I was no longer taking it from him.
I have also had a letter from the school about attendance and taking legal action against me. As he's not in school. Which I'm quite scared of. I don't know what I'm meant to do.
Social services have offered early help which is not in place just yet.
Its like ds is trying to get himself put into care I know that he has a couple of friends in care maybe he thinks it's cool or somthing. I have no idea.
He's fold me and others there's no real reason for this.
When social services called me I told them I feel scared of my own child 