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Victim support

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purpleme12 · 09/11/2021 22:25

Has anyone been helped by victim support?
I'm not talking about court I'm just talking about trying to feel better yourself
Please can anyone advise me and share experiences
Please no bad experiences cos I can't cope with that

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Thelnebriati · 09/11/2021 22:51

In my case, I refuse to talk about the incident to anyone who isn't a qualified therapist. My VS volunteer kept encouraging me to talk and wouldn't quit, so I declined any more help from them.

purpleme12 · 09/11/2021 23:01

Oh right it's not one of the more 'serious' crime incidents (if that makes sense)
But it is very much affecting me and my daughter
It is affecting me in my own home
(So it might be different to your situation?)
I guess what I'm trying to say is it wasn't 'trauma'

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purpleme12 · 09/11/2021 23:02

But I'd quite like some good experiences

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SlipperTripper · 09/11/2021 23:47

They can be a useful organisation, but focus very much on the practical help, rather than the emotional trauma associated with crime.

I am connected to VS and also training to be a counsellor, and I find that there is actually very little cross over.

The emphasis is very much on empowering the service user to feel safer (practically - alarms, apps, sleep advice etc), and clear on how confusing situations like trials, police liaison and court may play out. Emotional support IS touched on, but VS isn't a counselling service, and I think a lot of people leave feeling like their needs haven't been fulfilled because of this.

VS will offer you brilliant practical solutions and are well worth engaging with, to see how you feel talking about the situation if nothing else. They're great people and will help you make some sense of things. But be aware that you may find that actually the support you are searching for may mean you need to engage with a counsellor, and that's fine too.

Hope you are able to find some comfort.

purpleme12 · 09/11/2021 23:52

Oh right ok
I thought it was more for the emotional side?
I wanted help for me and my daughter
We are being harassed in our home
I want my daughter to feel safe in her home (and me too really)

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Laladell · 10/11/2021 00:02

In my experience they referred me too womens aid for help for me and my son, they said I was more than welcome to come back and ask for help off them but they felt womens aid could help me more help in terms of counselling etc, but they are so helpful in terms of giving me info on case proceedings, if I don't understand certain things about my case and what's happening and are going to support me through crown court.

I generally go to them for police/court/case related things but they are so so lovley and do always ring a few days later after I've spoke to them to make sure I'm OK.

Whatever it is your going through I hope your OK and I promise you it does get better x

purpleme12 · 10/11/2021 00:05

Thank you so much
For your lovely words xx

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Thelnebriati · 10/11/2021 11:14

If you are being harassed in your home, try Paladin, they run a stalking support service.
paladinservice.co.uk/

purpleme12 · 11/11/2021 13:04

It's not what I would call stalking but actually it does fit the description on their website
Thank you I will have a look

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