Malala married

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In the guardian online, sorry can’t do links. Congratulations to her and her new husband, an extraordinary woman who deserves happiness.

I do hope she also has a legal marriage as well as a nikah, it would be an reminder to other young UK based Muslim women that they need the legal protection a civil marriage gives.

Lovely post! Yes, I read this.
I couldn’t agree more re nikkah and legal protection. So many women are screwed over because of the lack of rights a nikkah gives women.

Aww congratulations to them. I still think of her as a teenager for some reason.

It was lovely to see this on her Twitter yesterday. But she was getting such a negative response in the comments from people who were bringing up something she said a few years ago about women not needing to be married . I hope she's ignoring them.

God I feel old, I keep thinking she’s still a kid. But congratulations to her, wishing her happiness and peace in her marriage.

www.theguardian.com/world/2021/nov/09/malala-yousafzai-marries-partner-in-small-ceremony-in-birmingham

She isn't married though why would the guardian say that ?

Well she’s married in her own mind, if not in the laws of the country. Maybe they’ll also have a legal ceremony? I hope she does for her own protection and to set a good example to other young women. Her husband looks nice.

But she was getting such a negative response in the comments from people who were bringing up something she said a few years ago about women not needing to be married

According to the BBC, her comments were made to Vogue in July, not ‘years ago’.

The comment is still relevant though. She can think women don’t ‘need’ to be married while still wanting to be married herself. Like I can say women don’t need to be a SAHM but I have been a SAHM myself for a period when it worked for my family.

Hopefully she will have a long and happy marriage - she looks lovely in her Instagram pictures with her new husband.

@Mrsjayy

She isn't married though why would the guardian say that ?

She's had a wedding. She's married in her and her husband's eyes and may very well have had a civil ceremony or have one booked for the coming days.

Lots of my friends have had outdoor weddings presided over by friends or family members or humanist ministers and had a civil ceremony either before or a few days after, they count the wedding everyone attended as their actual wedding though.

She's quite right in what she said, women don't need to be married. She wanted to marry and did. That is freedom of choice.

Congratulations to Malala and her new husband. 🎉

Haven't read the article, but congratulations to her and her husband. Does the article state she only had a nikkah and not the civil marriage?

How lovely 😊

How come a nikkah isn’t legally a marriage? When a wedding in a C of E church is? Do people of other religions have to do separate the religious and civil parts aswell?

@PinkPlantCase

How lovely 😊

How come a nikkah isn’t legally a marriage? When a wedding in a C of E church is? Do people of other religions have to do separate the religious and civil parts aswell?

Yes, this country does not recognise religious ceremonies outside the church as legal marriages. People (including myself) who want to be legally married will have a civil ceremony in addition to their religious ceremony, either on the same day or separately.

That picture in the guardian article is lovely. She looks beautiful and radiant. Such an amazing human being who went through so much to do what we take for granted in the uk. I must get her book for dd1.

@PinkPlantCase

How lovely 😊

How come a nikkah isn’t legally a marriage? When a wedding in a C of E church is? Do people of other religions have to do separate the religious and civil parts aswell?

I'm so sorry, I oversimplified what I said. I think in England and Wales a Church of England/Wales, Catholic, Quaker or Jewish wedding can be legally recognised, and Humanist ceremonies in Scotland too. Other religious ceremonies aren't automatically legally binding and would most likely require a civil ceremony too.

Roman Catholic weddings need a registrar present to oversee the signing of the register - not required in the Anglican church where the vicar does that.

Any other Christian wedding ceremony beyond C of E in England aren't legally recognized either unless a registrar is present. In large churches such as my own (independent Christian church) that do lots of weddings, one of the ministers will often qualify as a registrar but it hasn't always been an easy process.

@Milomonster

Lovely post! Yes, I read this. I couldn’t agree more re nikkah and legal protection. So many women are screwed over because of the lack of rights a nikkah gives women.

Why would you say a nikkah doesn't guarantee rights of women? It's a legally binding contract that calls for the husband to pay a dowry to his wife as agreed upon at the time of contract.

Her dress is beautiful. The colour is perfect.

Also her husband is hot.

Many 'nikkahs' (which is just the word that SE Asians use for marriage ceremony) are recognized as mosques have celebrant/officiant status.

@shylatte

Many 'nikkahs' (which is just the word that SE Asians use for marriage ceremony) are recognized as mosques have celebrant/officiant status.

Only if they're registered, though, and most aren't most people having a nikkah have to go and have a civil marriage separately. The problems arise when they don't get round to it, or don't grasp that it isn't legally valid here (as it is in some other countries), or because the nikkah was undertaken precisely because it's not legally binding to appease family who want them to marry someone suitable, or to enable polygamy.

@WeAreTheHeroes I got married in a catholic church, no registrar.

@pieceofcak Are nikkahs recognised as legal contracts in british law? Just curious? How are they enforced and by who?

Oh that's a lovely photo of the four of them. Congrats to her and her husband. I also love the dress colour, she looks glowing, and his tie matches :o