Why can't I make friends or chat like others?!

[Hogu]

I don't seem to have many friends yet I'd really like to make more friends.

I try and make small talk but it's usually really awkward and doesn't last long, people don't tend to make the first move with me though.

For example at a group today a new person started talking to someone next to me (who always seems really popular) and they chatted for a while.

It's starting to make me wonder what kind of vibes I give off and why people find me unapproachable. Anyone else experience this?

I think I have in the past

It could the vibe you're giving off, iy could that something about the way you look leads someone else to think they do or don't have things on common with you, it could be random

Have you tried saying hello or "I love your scarf"

What kind of groups are they?

It's so frustrating as I'm always willing to chat but I have a feeling my face says otherwise even though I feel I'm smiley 🤷🏻‍♀️
Yes I've tried compliments but again I'm not great at small talk so if the other person doesn't engage then it's just awkward and fades out.

Some people (incl my DH) are brill at it. He can talk to anyone about anything for ages. I just don't seem to be able to.

Toddler groups at the mo but this isn't exclusive, I've found it to be this way for ages now

I thought you might mean that kind of group

I'm going to baby groups at the moment and I've been quite lucky in making friends

It's good to find common ground even if just living near you, tell them about other things you do or invite for a walk or coffee... depending on what it is, it's usually POAS to speak to the person next to you

Or get there early and you might get into conversation with others when there are just a couple of you waiting

I think the awkwardness doesn't help

Try to be "breezy"

Yes, Ive had this over the years.

But interestingly enough, I find I attract fewer friends, but better/true friends.

My personal take is that im one of the few sane people left in an insane world. I.e. everyone else is the problem OP, and you arent.