Surprise 4th pregnancy

[LizMyles]

Hello,

Looking for some advise really. I have recently found out that I’m pregnant with my 4th child. I’m 35 and both OH and I were done having children. This pregnancy is a complete shock.

I’m about 7 weeks and have a phone call tomorrow regarding medical abortion.

My children are 16 (from previous relationship) 5 almost 6 and 3 almost 4.

I’m on here because I’m struggle to make a decision on what to do. OH and my initial reaction was that we simply can’t have another. We’re in a 3 bedroom house, my younger 2 share a room and my eldest has his own room. This baby would have to be in the room with me for a couple of years and then share with the younger 2? I worry about my 16 year old as he has exams next summer.
I worry about being too tired to juggle everything. I have started my own business and it’s doing really well. I don’t stop all day and I’m already feeling incredibly tired.

I’m on here really because i need to try and come to a decision. My head is saying that we absolutely can’t have another and it’s still early days and I should have a medical abortion. It would be what’s right. But my heart wants to meet this baby and learn who they are… I know that once I make a decision I won’t regret it either way but I’m struggling to come to that decision.

Any help, experience or advise would be grately appreciated.

Thanks

I have no words of advise. I was 33 with 3 kids when I found myself with a surprise baby on the way. I kept the baby and now she is an almost 2 year old. Yes, it's busy, tiring, cramped but I can't imagine life without her. I hope it goes well for you. Plenty of hugs xx

I'm pregnant with number 4 and my oldest is 16. He will be learning to drive as this one starts walking!
Surprise here too. Difficult. The decision is only yours. You simply have to weigh up how you feel. I love the gaps, but all mine are older and this feels like a first pregnancy again.. may be harder with younger children. All babies stay in with you at first. Again though, I get the space issue. Sorry don't feel I've helped. It's not just about being in a happy relationship.. is everything that goes with it. Life's not a fairytale. Do what you initially feel. You can opt out at any point up to it, walk out of clinic if needs be. But ... it's harder to rearrange to walk in. If you can give yourself a week to think. You have that time. Love and support to whatever you choose, both will be right if they are right for you xx

Subconsciously do you think you didn't mind having another since neither of you took permanent measures to prevent another pregnancy? I guess financially is there anyway you can afford a 4 bed even if means moving to a cheaper area? Take on extra work etc?