This cannot be normal

[Spiceup]

I'm a widow in her 50s.

Since DH died, I've been fortunate to expand my social circle and I now have a wide group of friends/acquaintances to spend time with and a few good friends. No romantic interest and no interest in having one FTB.

Yesterday I went to the pub to watch football with a couple of men similar age to me. While we were there we spoke briefly to another man, also there to watch football. I'd say at least 20 years younger than me and very good looking.

I can't get the picture out of my mind. I don't think I'm even lusting over him, just a picture of beauty that I can't stop thinking about.

Poor man, I'm sure would be horrified, but at least he'll never know.

Please tell me others experience this occasionally?

I'm also in my 50's and can appreciate a fine younger specimen but would only fancy a silver fox my age or older. No harm in smelling the flowers but not picking them

I'm in my 50s & have been leched on by some chaps in their 80s recently. I don't feel annoyed at them for it. So Frankly, I'm allowed to admire the pretty young things -- discreetly, sure, but my thoughts are my own.

It's fine.

I wasn't letching, just admiring the beauty. Which I accept is normal in the moment, but I'm still picturing him 24 hours later!

This happened to me recently with a plumber that came to my house.
I honestly could not stop thinking about him. Obsessed.
I think it’s normal
I quite enjoyed having something nice to think about

Sounds very normal to me. Congratulations, you're human

I got my car serviced a few years ago and saw the most good looking man I've ever seen in the flesh picking up his car. I proper swooned. I still think of him whenever I drive by the garage. Unbelievably handsome. Wow.

I'm mid 40s and have had a couple of moments where I've fancied a younger man.

My brain is still in my 20s and it's only when I look in the mirror that I remember my age and how my looks have faded.

I still think of myself as a wrinkle free 20 something.

I was driving through town the other day, stopped at traffic lights outside a tattoo shop and there was the most beautiful shirtless man not far inside the window 🤤. I briefly considered putting my hazards on when the light changed. 😂
Normal.
God he was gorgeous though

I once gasped, walking past a man in my home town. I didn't fancy him - I literally just passed him in the street - but I still remember his face - just incredibly beautiful to look at!

If this was reversed you'd all be saying 'dirty old man'

Perfectly normal though

I think it’s really nice that he captured your attention. After all, we age in the mirror, not necessarily in our hearts.

IT’s normal! But it’s no fun if you don’t follow up with a little celebration with him!