Is anyone listening to the Sweet Bobby podcast?

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It’s a new podcast and was recommended to me by several friends

It is a true story about a woman who gets catfished for TEN YEARS and is just absolutely insane, but also completely gripping.

Is anyone else listening? Would love people to discuss it with!

Or would anyone like to start listening..? Episodes 1&2 are out on Spotify, the podcast app etc, with the rest coming weekly

I'm gripped too, I really want to understand the motives.

@ChampagneCommunist The shrink next door has been turned into a series on Apple TV, think soon to be released.

Unfortunately the woman they interviewed in the second or first episode - the expert in coercive control - referred to the catfisher as a “she” a few times, so it kind of ruined the mystery for me as I guessed quite early on.

I can understand how she got duped - after years and years you start to doubt yourself and your real thoughts, and make excuses for anything that doesn’t fit your own version of events.

For some reason I couldn’t stand Hollywood Con Queen. I had just had a baby when I attempted it so that might have had something to do with it. I listen to loads of podcasts but something about that one rubbed me the wrong way.

I’ve just watched these and it’s gripping but I also don’t get how she could be fooled for so long. They explain that the person doesn’t ever speak in person or leave voice notes, never does the Skype thing but only does messages (I think) and sends photos.

How can you be in such a “relationship” without seeing or speaking to them - it’s completely bizarre.

Listening to this just now thanks to this thread and as much as my situation was different because I met the person and knew they existed … everything else rang so true, the constant promises, the threats of cheating, the possessiveness. What the professional came on and said about the love bombing then cutting it off and leaving you wanting more. Having gone through that myself it is just the hardest thing. To go through that and then find out the person isn’t even who you thought they were must have been hard to get over.

I agree I can’t quite believe she was fooled but once these people have their claws in you’re stuck.

Thanks for alerting me to this OP. I love a good podcast and this one had me gripped. Just finished episode 4.
But like others I can't believe she kept it going for so long without being suspicious about never actually seeing Bobby.
And yes to her family enabling the whole thing ... the bit about the grandmother's deathbed was just inexplicable. A cardiologist from NY giving advice about cancer treatment 🙄🙄🙄
I mean FFS 🤦‍♀️

I’ve just finished episode four

Strange story the catfisher certainly needs to be held to account

I feel deep sympathy for Kirit and yes we can all get fooled but you do have to look at yourself too, why are you willing to believe, ignore red flags why you (in her case) want to be the saviour

And the love of drama ….

Not sure why she was such an easy target

I was almost expecting the story to do a complete u turn that she had made up that she was catfished (I’m sure this has happed).

I was gripped by the first three but a bit underwhelmed by ep. 4. I want to know more about how the catfish got away with it for so long!

Another one who has just listened to all 5 episodes thanks to this thread.
Like pp, I have so many questions on what the motivation was, how Kirat missed all the red flags?
I also want to know what happened to the catfisher. Did they ever pay for the crime / offence.
Obviously now, their name has been splashed all over the media, I doubt they still have the city job.

I listened to the podcast (1-5) and was completely hooked! Can’t believe how crazy it is! How does one person keep up with that for 8 plus years?? Clearly unwell.

Totally agree with the questions! I don’t think they have lost their job as they haven’t mentioned anything about their employer to bring the org into disrepute, also from my understanding cat fishing is not illegal in the UK! I did read however there was some form of court settlement but details are not given.

@lazylittlelucy

Thanks for alerting me to this OP. I love a good podcast and this one had me gripped. Just finished episode 4. But like others I can't believe she kept it going for so long without being suspicious about never actually seeing Bobby. And yes to her family enabling the whole thing ... the bit about the grandmother's deathbed was just inexplicable. A cardiologist from NY giving advice about cancer treatment 🙄🙄🙄 I mean FFS 🤦‍♀️

Lol don’t forget the stroke, blood clot and heart attack I’ve the phone!

It is such a crazy story. You'd think in such a close knit community, someone would have come across Bobby or JayJay in the 10 years and noticed the holes in the story.

I wondered if on some level she didn't want a relationship and marriage and this gave her an out from all the questions she possibly would have had about that. I am perhaps wrong, but I would have thought there was some pressure on her to marry .

I am not suggesting she was necessarily conscious of that as a reason .

I just listened to the whole series, gobsmacked at the devious methods employed to keep Kirat ensnared by the “catfish”. Extremely well made with due diligence in every aspect. No spoilers but how much effort employed to sustain the fantasy using a cast of characters ! Astonishing. I know something about coercive control since a friend has just surfaced from 7 years of this (a “real” relationship not virtual), I can see how Kirat was groomed for this. The motive much less clear though. In the same vein, Chasing Charlie is also a fascinating (and quite distressing) podcast. There are some truly fucked up people out there and the internet gives them a new dimension in which to spread their nets….I do hope Kirat heals and can move on, but she will never get those years back.