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Housework - how long would this take you?

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EllieQ · 08/11/2021 10:05

I’ve been struggling with keeping on top
of housework and laundry recently, despite only having one child, a husband who does his share of day to day stuff, and a fairly small house.

Yesterday DH took DD out for the afternoon, and I got the following done:

  • Went to corner shop to get milk (the only time I left the house yesterday).
  • Sorted a load of laundry and put it on.
  • Ironed DD’s Brownies uniform (a quick iron only).
  • Hand washed DD’s dance uniform (all hand wash only!)
  • Sorted through a pile of paper on the dining room (ten minutes?)
  • Hoovered the bathroom (small) and one bedroom (medium sized)
  • Various bits of tidying as I went around.

They were out for 2.5 hours. If that was you, would you have got more/ less/ the same amount done in that time?

I had 5-10 minutes break between each job, which didn’t feel like much,and I feel that I should have got more done.

Weekends are really the only time I have to get on with housework. I work part time but over five days, so I don’t have a day ‘off’ to myself. DH WFH most days, and as he works in the dining room (no spare room), I can’t do much housework when we get home after school as it would disturb him (plus I often don’t feel like doing anything after a day at work!). I also WFH half the week, and try to get a load of laundry done at least on those days, but DH has an amazing talent of getting in the way when I’m trying to get stuff done during my tea break or lunch break 🙄

It’s really stressing me out, and I can’t tell if I should be doing more in the time I have, so I wanted a reality check from MN!

OP posts:
faithfulbird20 · 08/11/2021 15:05

I'd have got it done around the same time because it really depend on a lot of things. How big was the queue? How big was the laundry, pile of paper? What sort of tidying you did at the end?

Please don't worry. I'm sure the more you do it you will get quicker if that's what you want. But chores take up different amounts of time again depending on different factors.

Burnt0utMum · 08/11/2021 15:40

Corner shop is only across the road so that would take me about 2 mins.

Putting a wash on takes about 1 min as it's kept next to the washing machine ready.

Ironing the uniform maybe 5 mins max.

Wouldn't hand wash anything. That's what the hand wash function on the washing machine is for.

Paper sorting depends how much there is. I try to bin as much as possible to stop it building up.

Hoovering is mostly done by the robot while I get on with other things.

Tidying probably takes the longest because no one in this house seems to pick up after themselves.

EllieQ · 08/11/2021 18:26

Thanks for all the responses. I asked MN because I felt like I should have got a lot more done in that time. And the general consensus is that I am slow at housework, even accounting for my health issues, which is depressing Sad

It’s true that I didn’t want to use my precious child-free time for housework, but it was all stuff that I hadn’t been able to get done during the week/ on Saturday, and it all needed to be done. So perhaps I wasn’t as motivated as I could have been.

I do find it frustrating that my life feels like work/ childcare / housework and nothing else.

In response to various comments:

  • The hoovering was thorough as upstairs hadn’t been done for three weeks and there was dust and cat hair everywhere - I didn’t move furniture but did go into crevices and corners, and did the skirting boards, so not a quick whizz round.
  • I’m amazed by people saying they can sort a load of washing in seconds! There was about two loads worth in the laundry basket, but I needed to make sure my work clothes would be washed so I couldn’t just grab stuff for the top. That said, it took maybe five minutes max to sort a load and put the washing machine on.
  • I only ironed one thing/ hand washed one thing as these were the only things that needed to be done. DH had already ironed his shirts and DD’s school shirts (nothing else gets ironed), and the dance uniform is the only thing that gets hand washed. So no way to be more efficient there.
  • We have tried a robot hoover recently, but had to send it back as it can’t cope with the living room rug - the rug is too high from the floor for its wheels. If you lift it onto the rug, it will hoover it, but then stops at the edge of the rug as it thinks it’s a step. I was gutted!
  • Interesting to see that people would have the washing machine on while they went to the shops/ overnight - too much of a fire hazard for me (FIL was a firefighter so DH is quite conscious of these issues)
  • Also can’t run the washing machine when we get up as it would affect water pressure in the shower. I tend to put washing on before I log on to work, then hang it out / tumble dry at lunchtime.
  • Can’t afford a cleaner right now as still recovering from DH being unemployed for most of this year. Plus it would be odd to have a cleaner in with both of us at home (small house issue).

Thinking about it, some of the issues are out of my control (small house, slightly awkward layout, my energy levels), but I will think about how to be more efficient, and think about using the delicates cycle for the dance uniform.

This post was written while DD is at Brownies. I’m sure there was housework I should have been doing instead Grin

OP posts:
GrabTheDayByTheBalls · 08/11/2021 18:37

When dd at pre school I get home ay 9.20 leave at 11.40
In that time I can strip And re make all 4 beds. Get 1 laod washed and in dryer /online. Get next load in machine.

Hoover top to bottom
Polish top to bottom.
Wash up and put away
Mop through the whole of downstairs
Clean bathroom.

Thats a regular thing, But I don't stop And when I'm I'm a roll I do more Inc hoover out car and pop to supermarket on way to collect dd if need a few bits.

However other days. I do bugger all in that time.

Sometimes I just do the weekly shop unpack and quick hoover and that's it.

Sarahlou252 · 08/11/2021 18:42

It's up to you if you were happy pottering and tidying, I have days when I seem to be constantly sorting, taking stuff that belongs upstairs, bringing stuff back down. I never hand wash a thing, it all goes in the machine.
The jobs you have described would be done in half an hour here, but if I want stuff doing, I do tend to so it all in a whizz. Its not necessary to have a 10 minute break after sorting a load of washing unless that's what you wanted to do - and there's nothing wrong with that.

RachelHasThoseInBurgundy · 08/11/2021 18:42

asked MN because I felt like I should have got a lot more done in that time. And the general consensus is that I am slow at housework, even accounting for my health issues, which is depressing

Why is that depressing? Why do you feel you must be a certain level of efficient at cleaning? Confused this shit doesn’t matter.

Clementineapples · 08/11/2021 18:43

Maybe set a timer. Every day at 6pm you have 30 minutes to do everything. Then you can relax.
I have health issues and my house gets on top of me a lot but if you can rush round on a time limit knowing it’s just half hour and you get to relax you’ll get more done.

mrsm43s · 08/11/2021 18:54

@EllieQ

Thanks for all the responses. I asked MN because I felt like I should have got a lot more done in that time. And the general consensus is that I am slow at housework, even accounting for my health issues, which is depressing Sad

It’s true that I didn’t want to use my precious child-free time for housework, but it was all stuff that I hadn’t been able to get done during the week/ on Saturday, and it all needed to be done. So perhaps I wasn’t as motivated as I could have been.

I do find it frustrating that my life feels like work/ childcare / housework and nothing else.

In response to various comments:

  • The hoovering was thorough as upstairs hadn’t been done for three weeks and there was dust and cat hair everywhere - I didn’t move furniture but did go into crevices and corners, and did the skirting boards, so not a quick whizz round.
  • I’m amazed by people saying they can sort a load of washing in seconds! There was about two loads worth in the laundry basket, but I needed to make sure my work clothes would be washed so I couldn’t just grab stuff for the top. That said, it took maybe five minutes max to sort a load and put the washing machine on.
  • I only ironed one thing/ hand washed one thing as these were the only things that needed to be done. DH had already ironed his shirts and DD’s school shirts (nothing else gets ironed), and the dance uniform is the only thing that gets hand washed. So no way to be more efficient there.
  • We have tried a robot hoover recently, but had to send it back as it can’t cope with the living room rug - the rug is too high from the floor for its wheels. If you lift it onto the rug, it will hoover it, but then stops at the edge of the rug as it thinks it’s a step. I was gutted!
  • Interesting to see that people would have the washing machine on while they went to the shops/ overnight - too much of a fire hazard for me (FIL was a firefighter so DH is quite conscious of these issues)
  • Also can’t run the washing machine when we get up as it would affect water pressure in the shower. I tend to put washing on before I log on to work, then hang it out / tumble dry at lunchtime.
  • Can’t afford a cleaner right now as still recovering from DH being unemployed for most of this year. Plus it would be odd to have a cleaner in with both of us at home (small house issue).

Thinking about it, some of the issues are out of my control (small house, slightly awkward layout, my energy levels), but I will think about how to be more efficient, and think about using the delicates cycle for the dance uniform.

This post was written while DD is at Brownies. I’m sure there was housework I should have been doing instead Grin

I have similar issues where I have health issues that cause me issue both with fatigue and also physically with joints etc. The key is to work smarter, not harder.

So, for example, make sure the brownie uniform goes in the wash in time, so its ready to be ironed by DH when he does the shirts ironing.

Really don't do handwashing! That's what the delicate/handwash cycle on the machine is for.

It does take me literally seconds to put the washing in the machine, but I never let it build up, and I also don't buy anything that needs "special" washes. So its simply lights and darks, use a separated basket if necessary for presorting as you put things in the wash. Do a wash daily if you have enough dirty laundry for one, rather than waiting til you have a big pile.

I wouldn't leave 3 weeks between vacuums. Much easier to keep on top of it if you run round with the hoover daily or every couple of days. Ideally get yourself a nice lightweight cordless, that really helps.

Put everything away once you've used it, and train everyone else in your house to do the same. I can't emphasise this one enough. If you get into the habit of putting things away as you go, then you never have to tidy up. Equally, with paperwork. Have an intray for you, and intray for DH and put stuff in them as you go along. Where possible deal with stuff straight away rather than putting it off.

Clean the shower out when you use it, clean the loo and sink daily whilst you're in the bathroom. Don't let dirt build up. Use a shower spray on the screen after every shower. Throw empty bottles/loo roll tubes etc away as you go - don't put them on the side for later, because later never comes and you end up with mess everywhere.

Meal plan, and buy sufficient food for the week so you don't have to go out for top ups. Ideally get shopping delivered, its a big time and effort saver (and much easier to stick to the list if doing it online).

Put stuff in the dishwasher as you go along, wipe up spills or crumbs or splashes as you go along.

I can't really think of any more, but its all about not letting stuff build up, because a build up of jobs is exhausting and overwhelming to deal with, especially if you have chronic conditions.

mrsm43s · 08/11/2021 18:59

Also, obviously both you and DH should be sharing the load, rather than it all falling to you,

hotmeatymilk · 08/11/2021 19:07

Two hours for the milk because I’d also buy something delicious then make some coffee and sit around titting about on MN reading a book. Half an hour frantically shoving all the washing in, even the hand wash stuff. Recycle all the papers. Kick some dirt under the sofa. Shout “I’ve been rushed off my feet!” when DP came home and suggest getting a takeaway.

(I actually clean/tidy/blitz in one sweaty half-hour whirlwind then have a nap.)

SadSongsAndWaltzes · 08/11/2021 19:07

I don't recognise this universe where stripping and remaking the beds is a 5 minute job (at least 20 minutes for me), and you can "quickly run the hoover round" the whole house in about 10 minutes. Not to mention the washing, which is a good 30 minute job to take down the dry stuff and fold/ sort into piles then hang a wet load out again. I must be very slow too!
I am, however, incredibly disorganised so doing anything requires tidying up beforehand, adding hours to the job of cleaning the house. In fact, the tidying takes much longer than the cleaning and is never done. I'm going to look at the adhd/disorganised housework thread, thank you to whoever posted that x

Caspianberg · 08/11/2021 19:16

I think I would try and do more when your free and dh is working, so you don’t waste a child free Morning on just housework.

Your dh can’t need full concentration for 8 hrs every day, just ask him when he doesn’t have meetings as you want to Hoover 10 mins. For example I know dh starts work at 9am but 9-10am is no meetings, main daily meetings 10am-12 ( this is when I try and take Ds out) and afternoons differ.

Your dh can help too though surely. If your daughter has dance and brownies each week, he could also just wash the dance uniform that evening. I wouldn’t iron brownie uniform.

LucentBlade · 08/11/2021 21:17

It’s low level shit work as I call it, boring and mundane. I attack chores because I want them done and dusted. That would be under an hour for me but I have some health issues now so have to mix stuff up. I bought a robot hoover, it gets set off most days downstairs.

RedskyThisNight · 08/11/2021 21:46

Shouldn't DD be ironing her own Brownie uniform?

coffeepleeease · 08/11/2021 21:56

@RedskyThisNight

Shouldn't DD be ironing her own Brownie uniform?
At 6 years old?!
Badnightguaranteed · 08/11/2021 22:01

Brownie Uniforms surely don’t need ironing, and only the most elaborately sequined dance costumes require a handwash . I think a cool quick wash is fine, generally, unless it’s a really fancy tutu or something? Most of it is just nylon these days.

Bobsyer · 08/11/2021 22:19

@EllieQ

Maybe you are slow - that's fine. How much you can get done is not a value judgement. Give yourself a break Flowers

FWIW I never ever iron anything and I HATE housework so while I might have got through that quicker, that would probably be the sum total of housework I did in a week.

Bobsyer · 08/11/2021 22:21

Also if you're talking RAD/ISTD ballet leotards and tights or socks, those can absolutely go in the washing machine. When I became responsible for my own washing I started using the machine and they were fine. Just keep them on a cool wash.

Bunce1 · 08/11/2021 23:17

I really hope I haven’t made you feel bad and I apologise most sincerely if I have.

What about a darks/lights laundry basket- so just two side by side one for darks one for lights? That would help sorting?

Also DH should be put in charge of laundry. He works from home all day. I recently delegated ALL laundry to DH and apart from the tedious helpless man routine he’s rolled out afew times he’s actually gotten competent at it. I taught him how to read a clothing label. I showed which items were hand wash/delicate. I never ever put cashmere in the basket so so far so good. It’s his job from sticking a wash on to ironing. Full cycle of laundry with all the incremental steps. GAME CHANGER.

Hortonhearsadoctorwho · 08/11/2021 23:28

Laundry sorting in my house tends to be grab everything, shove it in. Hope for the best Blush

RussianSpy101 · 08/11/2021 23:29

An hour tops. Why so many breaks??

ToastieSnowy · 09/11/2021 00:03

That’s more than I can do in that time. I have chronic conditions and while I’m feeling well at the moment, so the fatigue isn’t horrendous, I still have pain every day. I’ve never had the energy levels most people have. It’s really frustrating but it is what it is.

Most people who don’t have chronic illness don’t understand why we need all the breaks. I think you did just fine.

YellowMonday · 09/11/2021 15:09

Quick tip on sorting your laundry - do it at the time you put washing in the laundry vs when it's time to wash. Huge time saver. I have 5 baskets - 1) Blacks 2) Whites 3) Colours 4) Towels/bedding 5) Hand wash.

So after my shower at night I'll pop my clothes in the appropriate basket.

I know it sounds excessive, but I find far easier to be able to simply pop a load of whites in or colours in or hand wash, etc.

Caspianberg · 09/11/2021 15:43

Agree with pre sorting laundry. We have darks, whites and wool/ delicate baskets. So basically just grab whichever is full, add odd bits from baby wash to the right category and in machine.

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