Is it time to consider removing dd from school ? Has anyone home educated ?

[Schoolproblem78]

Dd is really not settling- it’s a mr what we think is decision time but I don’t know. How long should we persevere for ?

Her MH has taken a battering and I can see she’s in the edge. I don’t want her to be isolated socially though? We can’t carry on with this level of upset though as she’s getting so unwell.

Has anyone removed their child from school and did it help? I don’t really know what to do her attendance is about 26% I think (well it was just before half term.

Where can I get advice about this are there support groups ?
We have a camhs referral but waiting list is very long

Does your council have a support service for children who are to ill to attend school? It’s possible this could cover your dc.

notfineinschool.co.uk/
Try here.

My friend did, she removed her son but he was junior school age. He wasn't home schooled really and has put on a lot of weight. He was desperate to go to a new school recently , so restarted after a year out, and left again after a few weeks due to bullying. I imagine it's partly his weight, and he's now behind academically. He's a lovely boy, but into his animals, so maybe not mainstream boy interests.
Part of the issue is his mum projecting her insecurities onto him and her dislike of school. She's a very loving mum and they are so close.

I have had some success with my going into school anxious child, by changing my language from we are going to be late ( and causing more anxiety ) to keeping it to myself and being encouraging. It's very hard, but I honestly think it starts with the home environment.

How old is your DD?

@penguinssmell

How old is your DD?

12

Op, I home educate my DS2. Older DS now in college.

I can't tell you what's the right thing for your DD, but before you do anything, it's worth finding out if there are many home educators in your area. If you're in a city, you may well find that there is a well-established home school network. Facebook's usually the best place to look. See if you can go along to a few meetups and talk to some home schoolers. There will be plenty who have had similar experiences to yours. Best of luck to you and your DD, whatever you decide.

Schooling started failing for my dd in year 3. I didn't deregister her but she didn't attend.

We we're in crisis for a long time but we're at least under camhs. Eventually she received an ASD diagnosis and has been receiving EOTAS (education otherwise than at school) for the last 5 years. I have a personal budget which funds specialist tutor.

I'm not saying your dd is neurodiverse - but it's a possibility that should be considered. Girls present SO differently from boys.

It's a really difficult and lonely place to be in Schoolproblem78 so I suggest reaching out to support groups like the above.

Do what's right for your dd and if she needs to be at home do that. but don't opt out of the school system rashly. You may be able to access support through them.

What does your dd say and what support are you getting ftom school?

Thankyou everyone. I’m just at a total loss and I’m so worried

She’s just so unhappy school so far have been ok but nothing they or we do is alleviating her distress. It been another bad Sunday afternoon / evening and it’s heartbreaking

Hi
My dd is also 12, Y8, and I took her out last year as the transition to high school was just too much for her. Her mental health was so worrying.
A year on and she is a different girl. Don't get me wrong, she still has her anxieties, but she never really enjoyed school and had no zest for life for a few years. She has a huge zest for life now, and her confidence has rocketed.
She is under camhs but quite honestly they have been no help.
She is about to start a proper online school funded by ehcp but we have followed the curriculum throughout as that is what she wanted to do.
It was such a difficult decision to make but really we had no choice as I couldn't physically have got her in anyway. I just wish I hadn't pushed her for so long.