Angry at husband

[Kezzie200]

Our parents live in the same town. My parents on their own, grandchildren live away. In laws live with two other daughters and their families very close by.

We have booked the cat in for Christmas eve to other side of boxing day but hadn't decided what to do as its not easy!

Yesterday my Mum asked what we were doing and I said we weren't sure, are waiting to see if we can get any extra days off but would be up and had booked the cat in to a kennels.

Today my husband rang his Mum who asked what we were doing and he said we would be up with the late Christmas Eve, have Christmas Dinner with them and go to the rugby boxing day. Then he came off the phone, told me, and said that's OK isn't it?

Well, no it bloody isn't.

Now he's saying we can go and see my parents on Christmas morning.

I'm thinking of just telling Mum the whole stupid story and asking her what she wants me to do over Christmas.

(Pre covid I would ask if the in laws could add two on, and they join us, but that's not so easy with my parents being rather more careful than my inlaws and their side of the family, which is fine, but doesn't suit this year)

I’d be cross too that he told them that without even talking it over with you.
To be honest, I’d do as you say, tell your mum the whole story & let her decide what they want to do. Or you could be really awkward & bolshy & invite your parents to stay with you this time
I’m looking at it from the other end being at the stage where we’re the ones with the young in-laws & all our parents are long dead. If I was your mum that’s what I’d prefer you did....the telling me, not the bolshy version ( wearing my MiL / Victor Meldrew hat )

It does sound a bit like grabbing all the time for his side of the family - is the rugby something you usually do? Bit weird otherwise. Surely if you've got all of those three days, you could manage two Christmas meals, one with each family, if you split it right?

Ditch the rugby, see your family on Boxing Day?