People are so full of shit

[toecoffin]

Just that really

I'm early 40s and getting less tolerant by the day

My husband is scared of my 50s

It's brilliant. I am very much enjoying getting older.

@catsareme14

I'm 60 & ran of fucks to give 10 years ago . So liberating .

Me too. I work in the NHS and one of the young doctors said last week " You rolled your eyes so hard I heard it", it was a proud moment

Since turning 50 last year my tolerance level gets less and less each day and there are so many things I couldn’t give a shit about now that years ago I would have

I love this thread, wish there was a like button. I'm 40 and see people's bullshit coming from a mile off. I see now why men go for younger women, my ex was 18 years older than me. I didnt put up with some of his idiocy, but he would have never got his hooks in with some life experience.

The last dickhead I dated said I was ‘fiesty’ - I’m sick of dickhead men calling women who have boundaries and assert them fiesty. Him and others who think my boundaries make me too direct can take their gaslighting, manipulative shite and piss right off. I truly wish I’d been like this from my twenties on!

@Journeynotdestination

The last dickhead I dated said I was ‘fiesty’ - I’m sick of dickhead men calling women who have boundaries and assert them fiesty. Him and others who think my boundaries make me too direct can take their gaslighting, manipulative shite and piss right off. I truly wish I’d been like this from my twenties on!

You should post this in the Relationships forum.

I'm in my mid 20's and already done with peoples shit, I can't imagine the next 20 years for me lol. I was in a nearly 6 year relationship as the main breadwinner and house organiser and I'm over it also having lived in 4 different cities I've found south of england especially London is quite a toxic place full of rude and ignorant people and I can't be arsed for it I don't get people my age spending loads on clothes and not saving acting entitled etc and the sooner I can buy a nice little cottage near york and keep to myself I will be very happy

Haha. Convo today...

DH - sigh (watching someone doing something really selfish and dumb) ‘people just stink!’
Me - ‘I’ve been saying that for the last 30 years! Human nature is crap and people suck’
DH - ‘30 years? That’s nothing to be proof of’
Me 😈

@Dragonfire282

Can I ask if this has affected anyone's friendships?

Yes. I have let one or two go.

I decided that they were doing nothing to enhance my life experience, so they got phased out.

Oh yes, I happily cleared a bunch of friends off my sm accounts this weekend. I'm in my 50s, and stopped smiling to just be nice around a decade ago. Can't stand liars, fake people, and schmoozers.

And to pp who said it comes with not being attractive, or not caring to appear attractive, I'm smoking hot

I also use my looks to get what I want if I need to, without shame, but I'm cold with it

Definitely affects friendships, but who needs friends like that?

Reminds me of a quote that's something like 'Don't pick a fight with a woman over 40, they're full of rage and sick of everyone's bull shit'

Just about sums me up really, I'm sick of justifying why I say no to something that's of absolutely no benefit to me and all to them and someone trying to give me reasons I should say yes, and so I don't, and just say no and end the conversation.
It's the reason I got out of hospitality, so sick of the whining and bitching from all angles and being used as the public's whipping boy.
🖕 To that shit.

Turned 54 this year and this is sort of me. I feel all the rage but I haven't quite acted on it as I'm still a bit fearful of the fallout. Low level crap from others but I think I'm almost ready to roar.
The fear comes from being an introvert all my life and allowing people to treat me poorly. Had a real heart to heart with my DH and he finally gets it. He's now on board with me turning on family if need be.

Same. Wish it hadn’t taken until 49s though

@halloweenie13

I'm in my mid 20's and already done with peoples shit, I can't imagine the next 20 years for me lol. I was in a nearly 6 year relationship as the main breadwinner and house organiser and I'm over it also having lived in 4 different cities I've found south of england especially London is quite a toxic place full of rude and ignorant people and I can't be arsed for it I don't get people my age spending loads on clothes and not saving acting entitled etc and the sooner I can buy a nice little cottage near york and keep to myself I will be very happy

I am a southerner by birth, lived in and around London until 2015 until we moved up here to East Yorkshire. I agree with your findings about the south, although there are good and bad ppl everywhere, the rudeness and lack of care for others in the south is soul-destroying at times. People are lovely here BUT there is no escaping the odd d*ckhead, in a way they stand out more because they are in the minority.

I find that the d*ckheadery is of a different kind to the south; my idiot neighbour who thinks he's 'wellard' would last all of 5 minutes in any location south of Milton Keynes.

I also find the 'niceness' of some people is, in reality extreme nosiness, which is much more prevalent than the south where you could drop down dead in your front garden and people would ignore you.

However I wouldn't move back as, in general, folk are grand here.

I'm so thankful I realised this in my 30s. Not far off my 30th birthday in fact.

People are full of shot and other people in reality don't give a shot about others. It's clear from the way people behaved during the pandemic, from those setting off fireworks every bloody day about here and in other places for months, people who blast music loudly at any whiff of warm air. Then you just have to look at the CF and parking threads on here.

People are arseholes and I was done being nice for the sake of civility a while ago.

@gingerlyme

It seems when you stand up to bullies, you get classed as the crazy one. I recently stood up to someone and get accused of aiming stuff at them.

they are clearly a narcissist full of shit. From their behaviour and their little digs/comments.
Their shit drains me, too the point I had to take time off because it made me emotionally drained. so yes completely agree!!

Ah yes someone tried to pull shot shot at work.

He had been goading and bossing people about for weeks (despite being the same level as us) so I chucked in the term "bullying and harassment" when talking to the leads about it - which it clearly was as he was having a go at people in meetings like he was in charge of us all.

Next thing he has gone to head of department who pulls us in for a meeting and tells us there has been some "light bullying" going on which is aimed at him, related to a report he kept asking for which a) seemed pointless as we report it elsewhere twice already, and b) we literally just asked why the report was needed AKA please actually communicate with us instead of demanding it like a bully (and we had also asked and resolved this issue two months prior to being pulled in to said meeting - just, why?) I wasn't backward in coming forward to tell the head this in front of everyone and it wiped the smug fucking look right off his face.

He has been on his best behaviour ever since, although if I get told by him to put my camera on in another pointless meeting one more time when I am feeling like dog shit I'm not going to be quite as pleasant about it.

@Dragonfire282

Can I ask if this has affected anyone's friendships?

Not yet, but I've lost a few family members along the way.

My dad helped raise his younger half sister. After my uncle died last year, my dad was also diagnosed 'end of life'.

His sister, who was some of our closest relatives growing up, took the hump because she didn't inherit anything from my uncle and decided to completely ignore my dad from then on...even though he was dying...even though he asked for her on numerous occasions. My cousin, her son, followed suit as he's a pathetic man child who is still dependent on them for lifts and finance well into his 49s.

When I called to tell her he'd passed away, she got her DH to answer. We let her know about the funeral, requested and RSVP (to number limits re Covid)...no response. Not so much as a card or flowers at the crem.

The day after the funeral I sent her, her DH and my cousin a text telling them in no uncertain terms what I thought of them and blocked all three of the fuckers.