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to think this year has been my annus horribilis

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BonfirePityParty · 05/11/2021 17:47

We are trying for a baby. It’s taken far longer than I ever thought.

I got pregnant but it was a chemical pregnancy

DH’s sperm isn’t the best, only 2% morphology.

DH now has ED and struggles to stay hard or climax (due to the anxiety/pressure, I totally get it, but it’s hard)

We are old and don’t have much TTC time left but there was no way we could have started to TTC sooner

We tried to buy a house but the sellers pulled out the week of completion.

We now can’t afford the kind of house we need (thanks Rishi).

We were so sure we’d be out of this rented house by this Christmas. I can’t believe we are stuck here.

I was invited to apply for a job, spent ages on it, didn’t even get an interview.

I was invited to apply for another job, spent even longer on it, didn’t get the job.

Work has been bloody hard for the both of us (both affected by pandemic, huge demand, not enough capacity, stressed out managers, huge amount of unpaid evening working to keep afloat).

Everyone seems to be announcing their pregnancy, making a fortune off their lockdown businesses, doing up their houses, buying bigger houses, getting promotions.

Everyone seems to be so lucky.

Not a thing has gone right for us this year. No lucky breaks. No achievements. Nothing to mark out 2021.

Fireworks are usually an optimistic time for me.

This year we have nothing to look forward to.

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NoToast · 05/11/2021 17:50

Aue, that all sounds shit. I'm so sorry.

clockledd · 05/11/2021 17:57

This sounds really really tough, I'm sorry. I hope good things are coming your way soon.

stealingbeauty · 05/11/2021 17:57

How awful. I’m so sorry. It’s weird how some years are just so bad, but next year could be the best year you’ve had in ages.
This year has been hard for me too. I’ve had a lot of loss. Hoping for a happy 2022 for us both!

JewelleryBox · 05/11/2021 17:58

That sounds so shit, I’m sorry. I hope for better things for us all.

Holothane · 05/11/2021 17:59

Crap year for me I’ve realised I can’t live my life with husband for the next 20 years. Uni March then again in July was my lowest time.

Thurlow · 05/11/2021 18:05

That sucks, I’m really sorry. It is weird how some years are so much worse than other years. Here’s hoping for lots more luck next year 🍀

BonfirePityParty · 05/11/2021 18:18

Thanks for the good wishes. It sounds odd but having it acknowledged that actually yes, this has been all very shite is somewhat comforting/reassuring!

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RobinPenguins · 05/11/2021 18:22

My 2016 was a bit like this. Despite a lot of challenges every year since has been better.

I’m sorry OP, it sounds shit. I hope better things are on their way for you. I always found Christmas a really hard time when unsuccessfully ttc, so be kind to yourselves.

Jamjar77 · 05/11/2021 18:24

OP just hang on in there. I had a similar time a few years ago - my lovely mum was diagnosed with a serious illness and died less than 4 months later, DH left his career (planned) and it took him a while to find a new job, secondary infertility, house move - the works. Especially stressful as I had a 2.5 year old at the time and couldn’t grieve / process as I needed to. Then to top it all I was made redundant! It all worked out in the end - now in a much better job, and DD2 made a surprise and very very welcome appearance just when we’d given up hope!! Wishing you all the best x

blissfulllife · 05/11/2021 18:24

I'm sorry op and I hope next year is your year when everything goes right x

bloodywhitecat · 05/11/2021 18:34

It has, indeed, been an awful year. I hope your luck changes soon.

Knitwit101 · 05/11/2021 18:36

Ach that does sound shit op, I'm sorry. I hope things pick up for you both.

SmileyClare · 05/11/2021 18:47

If it makes you feel better, then I'll tell you this has been my annus horriblis too. I expect it has for many.

We were both out of work during the pandemic, struggling financially and then just as things started to pick up, dh fell off a roof on his building site, broke many many important bones and I'm caring for him at home. We've never been so poor and depressed. It's been hell.

I think it's cathartic to moan about it sometimes Op. I really hope things improve for you Flowers

Greyeverywhere · 05/11/2021 18:49

Sorry you've gone through that and I really hope you have a better year next year.
We are in a similar situation with housing, I'm desperate need of a bigger house and we've finally got the deposit now we find we can no longer afford it due to rocketing house prices.
We lost a very dear family member all of a sudden too.
We have had a mixture of good and bad but I really hope next year is better

BonfirePityParty · 05/11/2021 19:43

@SmileyClare and @Greyeverywhere, sending best wishes to you both! BrewCake

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OhMyfanwy · 05/11/2021 19:48

I'm so sorry, that's shit. I won't share my woes but I hope that next year brings you most if not everything you wish for Flowers

JessCorroll · 05/11/2021 20:01

So sorry, hope next year is better for you ThanksThanksThanks

HyggeTygge1 · 05/11/2021 20:10

I'm sorry you are having a horrible year. My year had been awful too. I was very poorly at the start of the year and spent 8 weeks in hospital and now my 3 year old daughter had been in hospital for 3 weeks with epilepsy that has come out of nowhere. A song by Florence and the Machine came on the radio today and it had me in floods of (hopeful) tears that things will get better. Might be worth a listen. Xx

SmileyClare · 05/11/2021 20:47

Thanks Op. It's tough to take it on the chin when you have a catalogue of things going wrong. It feels relentless eh?

You have no choice but to stay strong and keep smiling but I understand that sometimes you just feel like wailing on the floor and saying Its not fair! I feel like that sometimes . I think It's ok to have those moments and have a cry.Smile

Sympathies to everyone having a terrible year. X

Pleasegivemeyourwisdom · 05/11/2021 20:47

I hear you!

YorkshireIndie · 05/11/2021 21:18

Sorry to hear you have had a hard year. It can be hard when it is one thing after another

BonfirePityParty · 06/11/2021 12:26

Just found the acoustic version of that @HyggeTygge1, powerful lyrics, thank you.

It certainly has felt relentless, @SmileyClare. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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