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Tell me about your best friend ❤️

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PresidentJoey · 04/11/2021 20:04

My BFF is H, we've been mates for 13 years. We've supported each other through everything - divorces, abusive relationships and worse. She drives me crazy at times but she's so loyal and always has my back. She's the one person I could tell anything 😚

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HerRoyalWitchyness · 04/11/2021 20:11

My best friend is a MNer. We only know each other because of this site.
Shes amazing. She's been there for me through thick and thin. She's fabulous. She's even paying for DS1s school trip as she knows his dad won't help out with anything.
I dont know what I'd do without her to text and moan at. She listens to my petty whines, and my big news no matter what is going on with her.
She lifts my spirits when I'm feeling low and tells me how much of a good job I'm doing with my kids.
She just gets me. And for someone who is autistic and struggles with social interaction that's the most important thing, someone who just gets me. She's the best. I luff her.

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PresidentJoey · 04/11/2021 20:17

She sounds awesome @HerRoyalWitchyness You have an MNBFF there 🥰

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TeeTotaller1 · 04/11/2021 20:18

My best friend is 5 days younger than me, we were like brother and sister growing up. We're in our 50's now and I love him to bits and he loves me !

Pumpkinsonparade · 04/11/2021 20:22

My bff was amazing.. Been besties for 8 years. Saw each other through a lot...
Until 6 years ago it clicked she didn't actually like my dc...
I ghosted her... Couldn't unrealise and didn't want confrontation..
Sad

edisonbulb · 04/11/2021 20:24

My bestie is called Susan. We are 41. I became best friends with her when our class teacher sat us next to each other at age 7.

FakeFruitShoot · 04/11/2021 20:25

I have 2 best friends.

One I met at NCT classes a decade or so ago. I love her. She supports and uplifts me and brings me cake. She doesn't judge me. She is patient, kind and accepting. I love her and her children so much.

The other I have known for 15ish years. She is wickedly intelligent, great fun and thoughtful. Her mum makes me pie for my birthday. She is the first friend I could talk politics / feminism / career stuff with. She supports me and is proud of me. I am endlessly proud of her.

Inextremis · 04/11/2021 20:27

She's brilliant, she's 10 years younger than me, and a Mum to two adult daughters (I don't have kids). We've known each other since our ex husbands worked together back in the 80s. I actually love her - we had our arguments over the years, but she's like family - you can argue but not fall out on a permanent basis. We live in different countries now, but keep in touch and see each other when we can. I miss having her closer, but what can you do?

ParkheadParadise · 04/11/2021 20:40

I met her in school.
We have been friends forever.
She was in my house more than her own growing up. My 5 older siblings treat her like a wee sister.
When my dd died she had gone on holiday the day before with her DH and his family. She flew home immediately and arrived at my house at 3am. She stayed for weeks.
Next weekend I have organised a surprise weekend away in Dublin for her birthday she will love it.

Sn0tnose · 04/11/2021 21:35

I met her on the first day of secondary school and we’re now mid forties. She’s just bloody lovely. She’s an organiser and a doer; She’s happiest when she’s sorting out someone’s life for them, but she never pushes me or demands more than I can give her. I might not see her for ages but we always pick up right where we left off. She knows me better than I know myself. We can look at each other and know exactly what the other is thinking, even if our faces are neutral. She accepts me totally for who I am. She has picked me up off the floor more times than I care to remember. I know she’d do anything for me and she has. She works really hard and she genuinely helps a lot of people who are really in need. She is the glue that holds a lot of people together. She’s fun, really gregarious, generous, kind and caring. Lots of people think of her as their best friend, but she is mine and I am hers.

Plus she’s a bloody amazing cook and has the biggest selection of 50’s dresses ever, which she looks bloody gorgeous in.

Practicebeingpatient · 04/11/2021 21:42

My BFF is actually my uncle. He is only a year older than me and we were pretty much raised as brother snd sister until his parents left the U.K. when he was 9. I missed him like mad but luckily he moved back here for uni and had stayed here ever since. We are in our sixties now, both married, godparents to one another’s kids, live locally, have joint holidays sometimes etc. Luckily our DPs also get on well!

I have many good friends done going back 20/39/40+ years but there’s no one else quite like him.

Fabvegetablegrower · 04/11/2021 21:52

I spoke to my best friend this morning on Skype for an hour. We've been friends all our lives we are 53 now, our Mum's were friends too. We don't live close to each other now and I've missed seeing her over the last two years. Today we arranged a day out in December I'm looking forward to it already.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 04/11/2021 22:00

My best friend is my DH's cousin, so been BFF's for decades. We have had so much fun together, trips, played cards, gossiped, raised our DC with all the drama that involves. The keeper of all of the secret wishes and dreams. Could talk forever and still find things to say.

She died 5 years ago and I'm still bereft.

DebbieHarrysCheekbones · 04/11/2021 22:10

My best friend has been my best friend for over thirty years. We have loved and supported each other through everything I can think of and she was by my side when I gave birth to my last baby. She is the sister I wish I’d had, the person that’s made my laugh the most, the maker of so many memories and someone that makes me feel like I won the jackpot of friends. Even in the darkest or saddest times for either of us the other pulls her up. Continents and time have separated us but there is an unspoken word, an enduring bond that means we are as close as we once were walking home from school or living out all those firsts as kids.
I love her so much. They say you can’t chose your family, well I didn’t chose her not she me but it’s like we were meant to be. When I am (hopefully) old and looking back on my life she will be threaded through so much of it. That is precious to me.

minou123 · 04/11/2021 22:16

My BFF is M. We've been BFF for 23 years.
I love her.

She knows everything about me and I her.
She knows all my secrets.

So, she is either my BFF or I kill her. Grin

PurplePansy05 · 04/11/2021 22:21

My BFFs now live on the other side of the world, sadly - the pandemic made it impossible for us to get together and last time I saw them was late 2018. Both met at uni nearly 15 years ago now (we're mid-30s). Recently I met a fantastic girl through NCT, we have babies the same age and I just had that instant BFF vibe and connection again. I think she will join the BFF gang soon.

Whilst they're all different, they have a lot in common too - empathetic, emotionally intelligent and no-nonsense. We talk very straight with each other even (or maybe especially) if some things are difficult to hear. When I get together with them it's like we've never been apart even if we only see each other every few years. Wicked sense of humour. Great taste in music. Stylish women with their own taste. The only people on the planet who I downed too many shots with and then moved on to jägerbombs.

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 04/11/2021 22:32

I've known my BF since I was 12 and now we're in our 60's. We've been friends a long time but we've grown a lot closer in the past 20 years or so.

We have nothing in common - she likes the finer things in life and I love a bargain. She can never say no to a salesman, I can never say yes until I have been home, googled it, chewed it over and then gone back with a list of questions. She loves opera, I love country music. She is single, I have been married nearly 40 years. But I could not imagine my life without her.

We would drop everything to support each other - she might phone me in the early hours and I get up and talk to her. Or when my grandfather died and I was at home alone she dropped everything and came to spend the day with me. When she goes away she messages me to tell me she has arrived safely and the same when she gets home. I always message her when the clocks change so she remembers to change her watch.

We have completely different friendship circles but when we need support we turn to each other. Sunday night is Chinese night. We watch Strictly and put the world to rights. We laugh until we cry at things that no one else would understand.

My husband and kids love her, so do their husbands/wives. My daughter even invited her to come and help her choose a wedding dress. She was responsible for pointing out the dress we actually bought. She encourages me, supports me, is my number one cheerleader as I am for her. I hope that I can be at least half the friend she is to me.

User527294627 · 05/11/2021 06:51

@Pumpkinsonparade

My bff was amazing.. Been besties for 8 years. Saw each other through a lot... Until 6 years ago it clicked she didn't actually like my dc... I ghosted her... Couldn't unrealise and didn't want confrontation.. Sad
God, that's cruel. After 8 years! Could you not have just spent time with her without your DC, or had a gentle conversation about it?
Babababababybelll · 05/11/2021 07:59

My bff is brilliant.

And has gone to work with a sore head this morning after an evening of pie peas , sparklers, roasted marshmallows and wine :-)

She also lives next door to me so i dont have to go far for wine night ha.

They are my family x

ApocalypseNowt · 05/11/2021 09:29

My BF is my husband's best friend's ex-girlfriend. They split up, we didn't Grin

We have a morbid plan that if our husbands die before us we're both going to sell up and buy a house together.

Twoweekcruise · 05/11/2021 09:35

My BF is P. We’ve known each other since we were 5, we were best friends at primary school and always together and now we are 48. We drifted apart for 20 years but got back in contact around 10 years ago. We see each other regularly and talk several times a week. I can talk to her about anything. DH is also one of my BF, we’ve been together for over 30 years.

Naaaaah · 05/11/2021 15:31

My best friend died 2 months ago. It still doesn't feel real. 32 years of friendship and then, just like that, she's gone.

FasterthanBolt · 05/11/2021 15:39

I met my bff on our first day at University and it was like love at first sight but in a best friend way! We have been bf for about 21 years, we text every day and meet up when we can. She is brilliant and the most amazing person I know in the world.

SapphosRock · 05/11/2021 15:41

@Naaaaah

My best friend died 2 months ago. It still doesn't feel real. 32 years of friendship and then, just like that, she's gone.

So sorry Thanks that must be so tough. Would you like to tell us about her?

Naaaaah · 05/11/2021 20:08

Thank you for asking. She was extraordinary. A true one off. She gathered new friends everywhere she went. She could have been a stand up comedian, had the best turn of phrase ever and people would hang on her every word. She was beautiful. Always glamorous too. She changed the life of so many people through her work. Her capacity to give was endless. She was also a massive pain in the arse and we used to fight like waring sisters. She'd repeat herself all the bloody time and was always late. By christ I miss her though. I really don't think I've quite taken it in yet.

fpurplea · 05/11/2021 20:15

I met my best mate in primary school age 7, 30 years ago. Even though we live busy lives at the opposite ends of the country, she's the only person who we can go months at a time without talking, but when we get together it's like no time's passed at all. It hasn't always been sunshine and roses, but she's my absolute rock, and been literally by my side though the worst times of my life.

I don't even really know if she knows how much she means to me, god knows I'm not the easiest person to stay friends with sometimes. But Nik, if you happen to be a MNer, your friendship over the years means more to me than I can say.