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handed in my notice today and it feels great

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Chompiemompie · 03/11/2021 22:57

i left a job i loved 5 months ago to start with a new organisation. it was a tough decision but i really wanted teh new post.
The organisation and myself are not a match and i have been shocked at the toxic culture there with bullying, cover ups, large numbers of staff at all levels leaving with unfilled posts, stressed staff and a general sense of fear amongst employees.
i am at a senior level and have been told to lie to staff frequently along with being screamed at by the CEO. staff are crying in the toilets and at desks, the CEO has instructed staff to spy on each other with surreptious photographs being taken and emailed to her whilst she is wfh, she drops meetings into our diaries with no clarity as to what they are for apart from messages like "i need to see you urgently about your attitude" and then she never turns up so people are left in fear as to what they have done. she changes her mind constantly, overturns others decisions without letting anyone know, denies she has given instructions. her PA emails senior staff every morning to let them know that the CEO is in foul form and watch out so anxiety is rife.

i told her today i was done and that i am not frightened of her and her leadership style. she offered me a pay increase and the chance to be part of her secret unit that spies on others for her. i told her that my integrity was worth more and to stick it.

i have to work 8 weeks notice or she will sue me and warned me that she plans to make my life hell for every minute of it and will ruin me.

I have no firm job to go to and right now, i dont care. i feel the weight lifted and frankly giddy! This proves it was the right decision.

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MissCruellaDeVil · 03/11/2021 23:05

She sounds very unprofessional, but so does her PA if they are emailing saying she is in a foul mood!

Clammyclam · 03/11/2021 23:08

You're free!!
Well done!!
I hope you find someone who knows your worth as much as you do- you deserve to work in a Safe place

Congrats

RandomMess · 03/11/2021 23:08

How horrific.

Could she sue if you were signed off sick?

Karmakamelion · 03/11/2021 23:11

She can't sie if you are off sick with stress

Karmakamelion · 03/11/2021 23:12

Sue even

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Chompiemompie · 03/11/2021 23:12

i dont know the position if i went off sick.
i told her i wanted out early and she said she would bring in an expensive external consultant to do my job and would sue me for the costs.

my online manager called me after work sobbing to say that she cant go on but has no option other than to stay and she is worried that she will now get punished for my behaviour and resignation. she begged me to stay. aye right.

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alwayswrighty · 03/11/2021 23:14

I've just done the same for similar reasons. Thankfully I had to go on garden leave. Its amazing!

groundcontroltomajormum · 03/11/2021 23:18

Well some op. Please keep us all updated Smile

groundcontroltomajormum · 03/11/2021 23:20

@Chompiemompie

i dont know the position if i went off sick. i told her i wanted out early and she said she would bring in an expensive external consultant to do my job and would sue me for the costs.

my online manager called me after work sobbing to say that she cant go on but has no option other than to stay and she is worried that she will now get punished for my behaviour and resignation. she begged me to stay. aye right.

My word she sounds like an absolute nutcase( the ceo lady, not your online boss) Has nobody complained about her? How is she still in a job?
TrampolineForMrKite · 03/11/2021 23:30

I worked for a dictator nutter like this. Luckily it was when I was young and in education so the job wasn’t my main gig and it didn’t really matter when I walked. It was in a specialist shop and he had secret cameras and listening devices installed, the lot. He was barking mad. During a causal conversation once about surnames and origins I mentioned that I had Eastern European Jewish heritage. He replied that I must have lost ancestors in the Holocaust and I answered that yes, I had. He laughed and said that he had German ancestry so the likelihood was that “his family had been the boss of your kind for generations, it was better when we could stick you in the gas chambers though” 😳 this was the final straw and I left.

Weirdly enough he couldn’t retain staff and six months later- when I had graduated and was in professional training- he texted offering me £100 for half a days work at a trade fair because he knew I was reliable and would show up. I texted back saying sorry, working 12hr shifts now, no can do and he replied pleading. I answered by saying that I really couldn’t but even if I could I wouldn’t because he was a total lunatic and it was not worth dealing with him, even for £100. I then blocked his number. Was so liberating. The shop eventually folded and he high tailed it with a load of people’s deposits. Luckily he was caught and ended up having to pay everything back plus damages. Was a bit legal case and the talk of the local area. I never go past where it was without laughing to myself. Hope he’s either destitute or in prison now. Or both!

Well done @Chompiemompie for ditching your own psycho boss. Get signed off with stress for your notice period. She won’t sue you- mental cases like that are always threatening litigation but never actually do it- but that way she can’t even try. Try ACAS for advice too.

Enjoy your freedom!

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Chompiemompie · 03/11/2021 23:31

staff at all levels feel powerless but i think many are lost perspective as to what is acceptable. she throws out titbits of praise and promises to staff which keep them hanging on in the hope that they will be in favour but then a few days later, they face her wrath. she will lovebomb people at the start and puts them through "tests" to see if they are on her side.

She told me that i had to find a way to get rid of members of my team as one of them once supposedly rolled their eyes about her at a meeting and that another asked a question about covid measures at work.
An external person to the organisation warned me before i started that it was the organisation where professions joined to become amateurs.
its a bizarre place to be but other senior managers will not raise issues or confront her. everyone is worn down.
i have requested an exit interview with a member of the board. dont imagine i will get it!

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groundcontroltomajormum · 03/11/2021 23:34

@Chompiemompie

staff at all levels feel powerless but i think many are lost perspective as to what is acceptable. she throws out titbits of praise and promises to staff which keep them hanging on in the hope that they will be in favour but then a few days later, they face her wrath. she will lovebomb people at the start and puts them through "tests" to see if they are on her side. She told me that i had to find a way to get rid of members of my team as one of them once supposedly rolled their eyes about her at a meeting and that another asked a question about covid measures at work. An external person to the organisation warned me before i started that it was the organisation where professions joined to become amateurs. its a bizarre place to be but other senior managers will not raise issues or confront her. everyone is worn down. i have requested an exit interview with a member of the board. dont imagine i will get it!
As others have suggested ask your doctor to sign you off ill. The stress will be very bad in these last 8 weeks.
allofthecheese · 03/11/2021 23:34

Best feeling ever! I also left the massively toxic workplace couple of years ago and it was so liberating knowing I wouldn't be working there anymore. Best decision ever.

Good luck for the future :)

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Chompiemompie · 04/11/2021 00:06

@alwaysrighty - i hope you are enjoying your leave and basking in the
non toxicity!

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Chompiemompie · 04/11/2021 00:07

allofthecheese - so glad it all worked out well for you

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Ylvamoon · 04/11/2021 00:20

Well done! Life IS to short for a shity workplace!
I have handed my notice in a few months ago. There was one particular person who was a well established bully with protection higher up. When I dared to raise the issue, I was told that there are always two sides to a story... Hmm

FrenchBulldogsareFab · 04/11/2021 00:41

I feel your pain and relief. Speak to your GP and get yourself signed off sick. After years working for a family owned company without a single days absence due to illness, I received a terminal diagnosis. Worked a further year before I knew it was too much for me. My GP signed me off sick for my 4 week notice period. HR department then commenced 4 week full-on campaign to 'manage me back' to work. My GP was astonished. Company continues to bombard media with empty rhetoric about concern for their staff welfare and mental health.

StrawberryJamSandwiches · 04/11/2021 05:49

Wow, so happy you have resigned! I worked in a place very similar, but on a smaller scale (family run business) it would seem. It was horrific and toxic and such a scary time in my life tbh. I didn't know what to do, I was on edge every minute of every working day. Th final straw came on the day when I basically woke up crying, and didn't stop until I was outside th gates (during getting ready/leaving the house/to the station/on th train) I just couldn't stop. I knew I just had yo get out of there. And thank god I did. Good luck to you, I hope th rest of them are able to as well. And that vile woman gets her comeuppance one day as well! Noone deserves to be treated so appallingly at work. We are there more hours really than we are not and everyone deserves a safe/reasonable workplace.

WorriedMillie · 04/11/2021 05:54

Another vote for protecting your mental well-being over the next 8 weeks, by getting signed off sick. Flowers

junebirthdaygirl · 04/11/2021 06:00

Is this public service or a private company? Could you keep a note each date for the 8 9weeks that you could hand to someone up above her as you leave or in case she pulls some stunt in that time.

Quirrelsotherface · 04/11/2021 06:09

How on earth does she get away with treating people that way?! She must be an extremely unhappy person.

ApolloandDaphne · 04/11/2021 06:19

I'm pleased you are leaving such a toxic environment but I worry for your sanity over the next 8 weeks. Make sure you have a strategy for glide sling with her or get signed off sick. If you have a sympathetic doctor they may agree this is the best thing to do.

Justilou1 · 04/11/2021 06:24

Who hired HER? Write to them and explain the environment in detail, why you have resigned and her response. See what comes of this.

Siriisatwat · 04/11/2021 06:35

Who hired HER? Write to them and explain the environment in detail, why you have resigned and her response. See what comes of this.

This.

And then get signed off. Fuck her. You can’t sue someone who is signed off sick.

She’s a nasty bully and needs to be pulled up by someone.

Siriisatwat · 04/11/2021 06:38

Trouble is, with a workplace bully like that, everyone is too afraid for their jobs to stand up to them.

I had a boas like that once, every time they tried to treat me badly, I either laughed in their face or told them to piss off.

I could see the visible shock on her face that she wasn’t getting to me.

I complained loudly to the owners of the company and she was let go.

I cannot abide nasty bullies.

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