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What do you do if you’re too unwell to do school pick up and have literally no option

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Poppadoms · 02/11/2021 18:57

As in nobody at all who could collect for you ?

Would you just keep your dc off ?

No family nearby. New to the area. New to the school. Dc with asc so couldn’t just find someone random like a new babysitter. Dh works away.
I don’t know any of the other mums.
I was so unwell today I just kept him off and I don’t see what other option I had 😞

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SallySkelington · 02/11/2021 18:57

Yup, I would

Kindleandacuppa · 02/11/2021 19:00

You done the right thing, hope you feel better soon

wildthingsinthenight · 02/11/2021 19:00

I would have too.
Hope you feel better soon Flowers

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Poppadoms · 02/11/2021 19:02

I feel so guilty tonight about it. It’s not happened before I’m rarely ill, I’ve had some asthma attacks lately and was not 100% and woke up with a raging temperature and dizzy and just really unwell 😞

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RedskyThisNight · 02/11/2021 19:02

I would in your circumstances, yes.
But I think it's worthwhile getting to know some of the other parents - if only because it's useful to have someone to call on sometimes. Having absolutely no one is not ideal.

What would you have done if you'd been taken ill during the day and your DC was already at school?

clarepetal · 02/11/2021 19:03

Exactly what you did. Hope your feeling better soon Flowers

rrhuth · 02/11/2021 19:05

Yes, that is the right thing to do.

A feeling of guilt is inappropriate in this scenario.

Ozanj · 02/11/2021 19:11

I think if it’s a long term illness then you probably do need to arrange something, but for what you described missing a day is fine.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 02/11/2021 19:12

Yes.

AnUnlikelyCombination · 02/11/2021 19:13

I think I would call the school and explain the issue. At our primary, I would get sympathy, and quite possibly a call back later with an offer of some sort of help (it has a tiny catchment, so I suspect they might find someone to nip out to get a child if there was really no other option).

britnay · 02/11/2021 19:13

Call a taxi?

NoSquirrels · 02/11/2021 19:14

Don’t feel guilty guilty if this is a one-off. Just take it as your cue to make sure you start building up a network.

Ask if there’s a class WhatsApp group to join.

Invite kids on play dates & offer a cuppa to parents.

Get a babysitter you trust in place - even if you don’t need them regularly it’s an investment in case of need. If your DP works away you need a network of support.

Hope you feel better Flowers

DoesHePlayTheFiddle · 02/11/2021 19:16

You do what you have to do. Without over-analysing it. Don't feel guilty. A former colleague of mine stayed off work because her trousers hadn't dried and she couldn't come in with just her pants on. You were ill and made the best judgement you could.

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Poppadoms · 02/11/2021 19:23

@RedskyThisNight

I would in your circumstances, yes. But I think it's worthwhile getting to know some of the other parents - if only because it's useful to have someone to call on sometimes. Having absolutely no one is not ideal.

What would you have done if you'd been taken ill during the day and your DC was already at school?

I don’t know ! It’s really made me think tbh as now I feel quite worried of anything like this happens again so I do need to make some friends I think
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Avarua · 02/11/2021 19:23

Asthma attacks, dizzy and temp sounds like covid...

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 02/11/2021 19:25

I think you did the right thing. What other alternative did you have?

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Poppadoms · 02/11/2021 19:25

@Avarua

Asthma attacks, dizzy and temp sounds like covid...
I do lateral flow tests regularly but maybe I should book a pcr? But my asthma has suddenly got bad over a week or so then suddenly temperature would it be that way round 🤷‍♀️ Maybe I will check just to be safe
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MrsMo21 · 02/11/2021 19:40

@Poppadoms you’ve done the right thing. Not just because you’ve got no choice but also, If it’s covid - even just a potential - you’ve safeguarded the children and teachers at DCs school.
I would say though have a chat with his school about this (im a teacher myself) as they may be able to do something to help. I have picked up children in the past (I have insurance that covers this) who have been in the same situation.
Hope you feel better soon x

MrsPsmalls · 02/11/2021 19:46

I've done the taxi thing. Told the school I'm about to do it and asked if someone could get him kerbside outside school. Don't suppose they were thrilled but TA did do it.

Mimilamore · 02/11/2021 19:52

The school may have a well-being/ pastoral care team who can sometimes offer support with this type of thing.
We used to send a PSW to collect the child if it was nearby and that gave parent time to try and arrange something for collection.... be honest with the school, they do understand, well if it is a supportive school that is...

WonderfulYou · 02/11/2021 20:53

Yes I have done that a couple of times before.

The thought of them being at school whilst you have a day to yourself is lovely and you’ll recover quicker but sometimes it’s just not possible.

Let them have the day off and hope they have a lie in. Then lounge about in your PJs all day.

Comedycook · 02/11/2021 20:55

I've had proper flu before and no one to take my dc to school....it took every fibre of my being to get them there...I just about managed it. To me it was slightly more preferable than having them at home all day whilst I was ill.

Anyway, I think what you did, as a one off, is not the end of the world

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