How do you pull other women up on 'small dick' jokes?

[Pileonsally]

I absolutely hate small dick jokes and cajt believe women still think its ok to make them!
Love my friends but a few of them like to make small dick jokes and small dick syndrome jokes. I find it so offensive.
Its not acceptable to comment on women's genitals so why is it acceptable to comment on men?

However I can never figure a way to challenge it? Don't want to seem the party pooper and half the time I agree with them that whoever they are calling is arrogant etc but dont think its ok to comment on dick size?

Do you ever pull anyone up on this and how do you do it ?

Either, that's not funny or you can't say that. It's pretty rare that people would make that kind of joke around me, I guess I've made my stance clear enough. I expect I get called uptight/politically correct when I'm not around (probably worse ), but meh.

One thing I really hate is stuff about boys or men crying or showing emotions/big girl's blouse etc. Makes me foam at the mouth when you think about boy/young men's suicide rates. Plus it's misogynistic and misandrist all in one. Delightful. Usually I'll say something like, so you believe that men should not show emotion, or that they shouldn't feel it? Depends on context/person.

I feel the same as short man syndrome, its offensive generalisation,

Men I've known have been really affected with negative penis size comments and they've stayed with them decades later. I wouldn't dream of criticising a body part, let alone one that someone can't change. It's really low. Same goes for boob size, labia size etc etc.

@Pileonsally

I absolutely hate small dick jokes and cajt believe women still think its ok to make them! Love my friends but a few of them like to make small dick jokes and small dick syndrome jokes. I find it so offensive. Its not acceptable to comment on women's genitals so why is it acceptable to comment on men?

However I can never figure a way to challenge it? Don't want to seem the party pooper and half the time I agree with them that whoever they are calling is arrogant etc but dont think its ok to comment on dick size?

Do you ever pull anyone up on this and how do you do it ?

What do you mean by "small dick jokes", do you mean men with a shitty attitude, driving loud cars etc. they joke that those men are "overcompensating", or do you mean random jokes, or specifically targeting someone maliciously?

My colleague handled it well last week... the staff in the backroom were joking about the man who had just delivered some stuff... her response to them (she was literally just walking past their door to ask me something) was a really loud "Fucking hell, are you lot for real, its like being back in the playground, grow up you losers"... many jaws hit the floor.

I wish I had that level of bravery.

@Ohsugarhoneyicetea

Every single aspect of the female body is analysed and criticised by the vast majority of men. And this is just normal male behaviour, on any day read any tabloid and the comments are front and centre. So until there is a movement to stop the constant pervasive criticism of every aspect of the female body, this issue is so far down my list of priorities, its non existent (no pun intended).

Agree

@MrsTerryPratchett

It's not really bodyshaming as they presumably have no idea how big the penises in question actually are. It's more akin to 'she just needs a good shag'. Tasteless and lewd.

Stony face and ignore I'd say. Don't join in but nothing to comment on.

That’s really not true. Ok it’s not shaming an individual man, but it is absolutely insinuating that having a small penis is something to be ashamed about. In the same way that men laughing about ugly genitals on females (‘looking like a badly packed kebab’ for example) should be picked up on.

I don't know what you mean OP

• small dick jokes - huh? I don't know any.
• telling someone they have a tiny dick as an insult - meh. there are much better & wittier insults than that
• commenting on an actual person's penis size to shame & humiliate them? of course that's not on! I wouldn't be involved in any such gossip and I if I did hear it I'd shut it down

which is it?
or do you mean something else?

Agree with this!

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

I don't know what you mean OP

• small dick jokes - huh? I don't know any.
• telling someone they have a tiny dick as an insult - meh. there are much better & wittier insults than that
• commenting on an actual person's penis size to shame & humiliate them? of course that's not on! I wouldn't be involved in any such gossip and I if I did hear it I'd shut it down

which is it?
or do you mean something else?

I think maybe she means that her mates comment some arse of a bloke likely has a small dick, so between them,

Can’t get too worked up about it to be fair although it’s not something I hear really, I guess her social circle might think it’s witty or something

Op how old are you? You all sound about 15. If that’s the case, they will grow out of it,

Good luck op
I see them made on here, so you won’t get much traction with saying it’s wrong. As for challenging other women, i can’t imagine many posters will agree with you

@FleasInMyKnees

I feel the same as short man syndrome, its offensive generalisation,

I agree. Heightism is the last acceptable discrimination.

I agree with the pp who said we should call it out, we can't take the moral high ground with me if we do it ourselves.

But also with the pp who said the sort of women who make these jokes are generally the type you don't really want to get into an argument with. Yes that makes me a coward. Fortunately I very rarely hear them though.

The worst one is seeing a woman wiggle her little finger

I agree. Heightism is the last acceptable discrimination.

Bullshit. Utter bullshit.

Casual sexism, harassment and misogyny are everywhere. Literally everywhere.

What LaBellina said.

How do we know the op is a woman, have I missed that part?

@Silenceisgolden20

How do we know the op is a woman, have I missed that part?

Don't think a man would say he loves his friends.

I think it's disgusting but I must say I do hear far more nasty comments and 'jokes' about female genitals - especially after having children. Including from other women things like 'I had a c-section so at least my vagina is still tight' and asking how loose you are after having children I've had female friends genuinley ashamed because they believe the misogynistic bollox about multiple sex partners somehow making you 'loose' - men are not subjected to the same rubbish. So while that doesn't make small dick jokes ok, the majority of women I know who make those jokes do so in retaliation to a nasty comment about themselves and the men who make them are the same arseholes who make jokes about women too.

Course a man would! Hey that's sexist saying that.
Plus I've read and invested in so many threads recently that have been made up or trolls, I don't know what's real anymore. Of all the things to start a thread on and all the women issues that need discussing, hey let's talk about being mean about men's dicks

Course those jokes shouldn't happen but come on, let men sort it out and get back to womens rights.

(And here come the attacks.....)

@KevinTheKoala yep, agree.

Wow, wasn't expecting that reaction!
I wasn't getting into competition about who has it worse (men or women).
For those that don't think its thst big an issue, speak to teenage boys and adult men who are utterly screwed up/lack of self esteem because they are consumed by the thought that 'small dicks are wrong and laughed at'.
If that was your son upset at constantly hearing this message would you say 'well suck it up because a woman somewhere is hearing something worse' ??

An overwhelmingly depressing response on a depressing topic. :(

No course not, you're missing the point. No one on here would say that.
You can't compare, it's really not the same at all.
If anything, women are put in their place from birth...

Agree with you OP.
However, I dont have any suggestions because if people make jokes in my presence about small dicks, or waggle their little finger to imply someone has a small dick, or tells a man he has a small dick to insult or humiliate him, I distance myself from them.
I dont wish to associate with people who get any enjoyment out of humiliating another person based on their bodies or their perceived insecurities about their bodies.

The few times it's happened I've pulled an annoyed face and said "seriously?"
I remember a group of friends giggling along with the joke and then going awkwardly silent the first time I did it. I hesitated for a second then pointed out that if a man was speaking about one of us like that we'd all agree he was a wanker. Sparked an interesting conversation. The other few times I just walked away as the person making the joke tried to justify it.

I’ve never heard one. I haven’t heard anyone make equivalent jokes or comments at about women since I was a teenager either.