£10 present you’d buy yourself as a reward

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I’m currently in counselling for trauma related to the breakdown of my marriage, I work part time despite my GP telling me when I split with my husband she can never see me working again, and my 7yo DC having some medical needs and limited input from my ExH, my family and ExHs family (I have full residency ExH has visitation rights for 1 night EOW thats all he and his family do, my family help occasionally).

My counsellor has said I should buy myself a small reward to tell myself I’m proud of myself and I am strong enough to get through anything thrown at me (it doesn't matter I have to ask for support that shows I am strong enough to reach out).

I can only afford £10. So if it was you what would you buy? Not chocolate or sweets or anything like that as buy those as part of my weekly shop anyway.

I bought myself some affirmation cards, so that every time I feel a bit down or whatever I can go pull one out at random. It's just a few seconds of reminding myself to think positively, and it helps me remember the tools I learn in therapy.

Previously I have had some other small token presents like a bracelet, a Crystal, a key chain, a candle, things I wouldn't have necessarily have chosen but which bring me great joy because they were gifted to me during a tough time. I keep these still and whenever I need strength I reach for them.

I also have a little angel made from rose quartz which fits inside my hand and comes with me when I have a job interview or something like that. I have started getting a bit of a collection as people know I like these kinds of things now and so I have lots of different cards, 'coffee table' books with quotes, affirmations etc in and lots of lovely little therapy tools and more recently fidget toys.

I would go for something like a bracelet or key chain that you are going to see often though. Something you will use or see every day

Bulbs to plant for the Spring, something to look forward to and will return every year. No matter how dark and cold things may seem, little bulbs still sit waiting in the ground and and show themselves when the time is right. Nature's wonderful.

Well done OP. I bought myself a gratitude journal recently which sounds a bit wanky but it’s helping.

so glad you are getting there myself I always love to get flowers especially ones that smell nice as they make the home pretty and fragrant

I'd buy a silver bracelet or earrings from www.jewellerybox.co uk...plenty on there for a tenner or a gorgeous houseplant.

Oh crap...will repost link www.jewellerybox.co.uk

A lovely mug from Sugar &Sloth www.sugarandsloth.co.uk/product-category/gifts/mugs

Lovely smelling candle like lavender (calming) or a bath bomb from lush

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It's so hard to know what would make you happy.

You're doing really, really, well!!!

It sounds like a strange thing for your GP to say! But well done for proving them wrong!!

I know a lot of people think they're 'tat' or worse, but would something like this

www.moonpig.com/uk/personalised-cards/p/thinking-of-you-card--you-are-amazing/am022-sq/?gbraid=0AAAAAD4mpNjSa0Y1ijkcxg4cSqxy22eHa&gbraid=0AAAAAD4mpNjSa0Y1ijkcxg4cSqxy22eHa&gclid=Cj0KCQjww4OMBhCUARIsAILndv7kwvgr9dGDII31SBWwci6frAySn2eLaHb20UK-7SuJ79oOcHsDVCsaAt8VEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds&size=13&utm_campaign=shopping&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google

& a wee frame to put it in, remind you of how far you've come & that you will be ok!!

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Not strange when you realise my ExH left me with physical injuries I'll never recover from which affect me all the time

It sounds as though you should be incredibly proud!

I'd buy a new paperback and if enough left over, a nice hot chocolate/coffee sachet to settle in with.