Fat, thirty and infertile. Time for a change!

[GobletofFiyah]

I've got fat recently. I had a breakdown in 2019/ early 2020 and was put on anti psychotic medication that saved my life but I've packed the weight on. I have lost 4 stone 10 pounds recently, but I need to lose about 9 stone before my dr will refer us for ivf which we desperately need.

I've fucked about with dieting for years but now I mean it. I'm now 19 stone (down from 23 stone) but todays conversation with my dr really hammered home how ridiculous I am.

She said all my medical issues were caused by my weight (infected gall bladder, Crohns miscarriages and recurrent thrush), she said I need to go back in 6 months to be weighed and if I haven't lose enough she'll have to refer me for weight loss surgery she gave me 6 month membership to slimming world tonight too. I know she's not entirely wrong but actually my Crohns medication makes me more susceptible to thrush and my Crohns in general may have caused my gallbladder issues.

She didn't even seem bothered about the fact I had actually lost weight it was like she was just focused on the number I am right now. She kept saying 'you're only 30 you've done this to yourself, you need to get a handle on this'

But I'm really proud of myself because this time last year it would have triggered a binge and it didn't; I just thought I'll show you.

So, anyone else feel like a change ? I'm going to use this as a blog I think. Record the ups and downs

I think I'm going to stick to calorie deficit because it's working for me

Well done OP. You can do it, just keep going. Try to log everything you eat and drink including alcohol, milk in tea etc. Good luck

You are not ridiculous a four stone weight loss is fantastic.

Your doctor sounds awful. Well done on the weight loss and an even bigger well done for not being deterred by her terrible attitude! I'm also trying to lose weight to help with my fertility. It's hard but I've been overweight for most of my life and this is the first incentive that has actually stuck and kept me motivated. Good luck with the rest of your weight loss journey!

Rooting for you OP, your progress so far is fantastic.

Also sounds like your doctor's people skills could use some work.

Well done. Don't give up. X

4 stone weight loss is amazing!

Could you start doing some gentle exercise? At 19 stone even a short walk around your neighbourhood will burn up hundreds of calories, its great for your mental health, it will really encourage you and you will notice your fitness improving as well.

Keep going and a lot of GPs are insensitive warts, don't let her get to you

Sounds like you're on the right track already. And you have time on your side if you're still only 30.
Keep going!

Your doctor sounds awful!!!
You have done so well to lose 4 stone, keep going and just think about everything you put in your body as if it were nourishing your future baby. So don’t feed the baby coke and crisps!! You can absolutely do this op and show that arsehole of a doctor!!!

Practically 5 stone! That’s fantastic! wow! Fuck the doctor you have done amazing. Wishing you all the best for the future. Do Slimming World though, it does work well, the rest you want to loose will be gone in no time.

Thank you for responding! Yes im pretty disappointed in her attitude tbh, however im going for a walk today and will try and go for one every day until I start my new job on the 15th, then I'll
Probably not do any extra exercise on the days im working because I tend to walk 15000 steps a day at work and I'm tired afterwards!

I will do this. There is no maybe

Ignore her, you've done a brilliant job so far and I have no doubt you will get to where you need to be. The hardest part is losing the initial weight, you're well on your way now. It doesn't feel like it but you are still really young, you've plenty of time and a plan in place, good luck xxx

Today I didn't have breakfast which is a revelation. I usually have cereal because it's breakfast time but today I wasn't hungry so waited for lunch and had a ham and mustard sandwich on brown bread with lots of whole grain mustard, with a salad of rocket, cucumber, celery tomato and a yellow pepper. I had some water afterwards and I definitely don't feel hungry still.

Tonight's tea is Charlie Bighams cottage pie as it accidentally defrosted which is 660 calories for half ! So all in all I'll have eaten 761 calories today and my goal is 1600 so I might have a little something for pudding or a velvetiser hot chocolate as a bed time treat.

Food is fuel and not to be used as self harm, if I'm hungry after my tea I'll eat but if I'm
Not I won't :)

I feel liberated

Congratulations OP on your 4 stone loss. Obviously it's your choice but I've joined the low carb boot camp on here and I've lost almost 9lb in two weeks. Its a great support group too.

Also I'm only 1 stone overweight so I thought it would be harder to lose but it's working.

Congratulations OP!

You're right, food is fuel... Sometimes I forget that and I overeat, but I am trying to behave now that I am starting IVF