I've posted a while ago under a different name. Basically my mother has never really warmed to me. She has criticised and put me down all my life. I've managed to do well. I keep myself to myself. Have degrees and steady job and dc and happy marriage.
But she will only see my faults. Tells me everyone else is doing really well (e.g someone who got a job in a nursery on minimum wage which is wonderful but I have a 23 year senior career with children and she never mentions it or changes the subject if I talk about it)
My graduation- she got sick so my father had to take her out. My hen party she went to a&e with constipation (she was in her late 50s) so dad was stressing me and ringing.
When I had my first dc she said she forgave me for all - I literally have never done anything anything wrong.
But something snapped a few years ago when she screamed at my dh over something he said. There's drama every single day. She makes up stories eg my brother is on cocaine. Weeks of crying. Then it's not true. Something else.
Last week it was that my brother and wife were visiting and how much they hate her. She's greedy. Racist horrible comments. I took out my laptop and ignored her.
She started crying. Left shouting and being rude. I can't deal with it anymore.
But the guilt is too much. We are not on speaking terms. My father plays along with everything. My brothers text that I'm selfish. One of them has never visited me once yet his kids are dumped here most weekends .
I can't see a way out. She's told everyone how bad I am. I don't know what she has said to them but it won't be pretty.